thinking of paying for sex

slum dog

hi,

im a long time user so here goes. ive been haven trouble with the ladies. i only seem to score with fat birds. i sleep with them out of desperation and i cant seem to score with good looking birds. any have decent women turn me down becasue i dont happen to be a solicitor or doctor. so im thinking of paying for a good looking lady to sleep with. any advice?

and dont say your shallow as though women dont go for men because of their jobs

slum dog
the legend

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curlzy

Hey OP,

The reason that you haven't been "scoring the good looking birds" would be your attitude to women, going by your post. Describing your sexual partner as "fat birds" and saying that women sleep with men based on their job certainly isn't going to make you appealing to women. Neither is describing yourself as "a legend" because going by your post you're anything but. My advice; change your stinking attitude to women.

If you'd rather retain the attitude and pay for sex my advice is to save alot of money, good looking hookers aren't cheap. Always use protection and get yourself checked regularly, also get used to being alone because sleeping with prostitutes will pretty much wipe out any hope of getting a decent woman if it gets out that you're sad enough to sleep with prostitutes.

Best of luck

LegacyUser

I went to hookers twice when I was a bit younger when I was abroad a few years ago. I was very drunk both times and had sex the first time but a few months later when I went to one again I was so drunk the general failed to stand to attention so nothing really happened.

Regardless, I always regretted it going to them and I've never went back and that is almost 10 years ago. It took me a long time to stop beating myself up about it. I felt like I wasted money as I didn't cum either time and more than that, I felt like an idiot for going to them in the first place. I was in my early twenties too and still a virgin so I think that was weighing on my mind a lot and was frustrating me so that may have played a part. I also got paranoid about my health so I went and had an STI test which cost about €150 I think. That was not exactly pleasant or painless either.

My advice would be to avoid going. I've been tempted to go to them since during dry spells but I haven't. From what I can see, they cost a lot of money plus you need to factor in another €150 on top of that for an STI test afterwards to be on the safe side.

Take it from someone who made the mistake before, don't go. Save your money.

Gannicus

curlzy wrote: »

Hey OP,

The reason that you haven't been "scoring the good looking birds" would be your attitude to women, going by your post. Describing your sexual partner as "fat birds" and saying that women sleep with men based on their job certainly isn't going to make you appealing to women. Neither is describing yourself as "a legend" because going by your post you're anything but. My advice; change your stinking attitude to women.

If you'd rather retain the attitude and pay for sex my advice is to save alot of money, good looking hookers aren't cheap. Always use protection and get yourself checked regularly, also get used to being alone because sleeping with prostitutes will pretty much wipe out any hope of getting a decent woman if it gets out that you're sad enough to sleep with prostitutes.
Best of luck

+1

ElleEm

I agree with the other posters. The way you refer to women is horrible.
You need to start seeing women for their personalities. Women are more than what they look like, and until you change your attitude, you will NEVER find a good one.
If you are desperate enough to pay for sex, then do. But I, along with most of my female friends, find it pathetic that a man would be reduced to having to pay a woman to feign sexual attraction to him.

Scanlas The 2nd

ElleEm wrote: »

I agree with the other posters. The way you refer to women is horrible. You need to start seeing women for their personalities. Women are more than what they look like, and until u change your attitude, you will NEVER find a good ne. If you are desperate enough to pay for sex, then do. But i, along with most of my female friends, find it pathetic that a man would be reduced to having to pay a woman to feign sexual attraction to him.

I agree the way he is referring to women isn't nice but he is pretty much saying he is desperate and seems to be aware that women don't find him attractive. You aren't really helping him not be desperate.

Op, I'd suggest erasing any preconceived notions about women you have in your head and assume nothing. Forget about sex with good looking women for the moment and focus on approaching attractive women and enjoying yourself, don't try too impress women. As soon as a woman realises you are trying to impress her she loses interest sexually. Just have fun approaching lots of women and you'll improve.

ted1

Sounds to me that's its the women who are scraping the bottom of the barrel when there with you. You need to look at yourself and the way you treat women.

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cafecolour

Plenty of women go for things other than a 'doctor or a solicitor': personality, comfort, a sense of adventure, looks, a sense of humor, a sense of security, etc...

It doesn't seem like you you have any of these things and are shooting above your league with women (I'm guessing because you have no real confidence plus, conversely, an inflated ego, leaving you with an entitlement complex that you deserve the best even though you do nothing to work for it).

You have three options:

- lower your standards, find a nice fat bird you click with and can settle with

- put your time and energy into improving yourself, your looks, your confidence, and making yourself more attractive to women and yourself

- put your time and energy into earning more money so you can pay prostitutes

Personally, I'd go with option two, or maybe 1. IMHO prostitutes are like junk food - they might be tasty at the moment, but they're not going to provide real satiation and they're not healthy in the long run.

EGAR

slum dog wrote: »

hi,

im a long time user so here goes. ive been haven trouble with the ladies. i only seem to score with fat birds. i sleep with them out of desperation and i cant seem to score with good looking birds. any have decent women turn me down becasue i dont happen to be a solicitor or doctor. so im thinking of paying for a good looking lady to sleep with. any advice?

and dont say your shallow as though women dont go for men because of their jobs

slum dog
the legend

Ahm, you ARE shallow. And you seem to have very little respect for women and perhaps that is your problem more than anything else.

solerina

I have always picked my boyfriends on the basis of their personality, not their jobs or their weight.....maybe if you tried looking at the person and not the waisteline you might have some success......from your post I cant understand how you get any women, you really need to change your attitude !!

Neyite

Y'know what I love about my partner OP? The things above all that makes me want to drag him into the bedroom by the ankles? His respect for women, and me in particular, and his innate kindness to all the people in his life.

He worked alongside me in a min-wage job when I first met him, then moved to construction where he earned great money for a few years, then got laid off, and only had his dole for 6 months, and now is working hard in a decent job, but in my opinion his salary is far below what he should be getting for the work he does. So I loved him when he earned the same as me, less than me, and more than me. And I love that he feels the same. Money or earning potential never came into the equation.

If no decent women are looking your way OP, then the common denominator is you - whether you like it or not. An unpleasant attitude towards women can be sensed a mile off. In my single days if I got the vibe that a guy was assessing me like a piece of meat in a butchers I was out of there faster than a scalded cat, I could always tell if a guy was only interested in f**kable arm candy, and they got turned down. My biggest sexual organ is my brain, and a man needs to stimulate that before he gets into my knickers. Maybe by looking at women as merely a bag of skin with a collection of orifices for you to stick your dick into is where you are going wrong?

The girls that hang around looking for a man to support them are also a specific sub-set of the female species. I personally dont have any friend like that, just not the circle I hang out with. I would agree that some women are like that, but for you to write off an entire gender (bar the "fat birds") - well, if you really believe that, you might as well give up the pulling scene and just pay for sex. In your case, it seems more of an honest transaction, since you are not interested in meeting someone nice, just sex, and thats what a prostitute provides in exchange for cash.

The thing is though - (going to put aside my personal revulsion for anyone who uses prostitutes for the moment) just as good looking, decent women have their "price" in your eyes, so too will a good looking prostitute or escort. Their body and face is their marketable assets, their price, abeit in a cold hard cash kind of way. So expect to pay more for the better looking ones.

ElleEm

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

I agree the way he is referring to women isn't nice but he is pretty much saying he is desperate and seems to be aware that women don't find him attractive. You aren't really helping him not be desperate.

The reason women aren't finding him attractive is most probably because of his appalling view towards them.

And he asked for advice- that is the reason I told him my views (and the views of most of my friends) on men who pay for sex.

Scanlas The 2nd

ElleEm wrote: »

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

I agree the way he is referring to women isn't nice but he is pretty much saying he is desperate and seems to be aware that women don't find him attractive. You aren't really helping him not be desperate.

The reason women aren't finding him attractive is most probably because of his appalling view towards them.

And he asked for advice- that is the reason I told him my views (and the views of most of my friends) on men who pay for sex.

You basically just slagged him off, I didn't see anything constructive.

ElleEm

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

You basically just slagged him off, I didn't see anything constructive.

ElleEm wrote: »

I agree with the other posters. The way you refer to women is horrible.
You need to start seeing women for their personalities. Women are more than what they look like, and until you change your attitude, you will NEVER find a good one.
If you are desperate enough to pay for sex, then do. But I, along with most of my female friends, find it pathetic that a man would be reduced to having to pay a woman to feign sexual attraction to him.

A number of other posters said the same things regarding the OP changing his attitude.

There are also a couple of posts that JUST "slag off" the OP. I don't know why you're focusing on mine.

ElleEm

sunflower27 wrote: »

I actually see several good points here.

1. Women are more than just their 'looks'

2. Women do and will judge a man if they find out he has slept with prostitutes.

OP, I am guessing the resentment that is so glaringly obvious towards women comes from your own low self-esteem from being rejected time and time again.

Rejection is a part of life, but your attitude does stink and any woman that loves and values herself will not want to be with someone that views her as purely a pretty face/body for a man to have his fun with.

Generalising all women as money-grabbing and superficial is ridiculous - you aren't the same as every other man out there, so it is insane to assume all women are after the same thing.

If women only went for wealthy men, there'd be a lot more single men in the current climate.

Thanks Sunflower! I would have (probably!) been as articulate as you were had I not have posted that from my dodgy phone

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ifellover

Women do discriminate against men with bad jobs or no jobs at all.
I was unemployed for about a year, although I had a good degree, Masters, impressive work experience etc, and I tell ya you suffer discrimination all over the place. I was trying to rent a gaff but once you mentioned you haven't got a job, the door was firmly slammed in your face.
Women may say that a job doesn't matter, but doctors, investment bankers, partners of big law firms all have hot wives.

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Captain McDuck

Hey OP, I feel ya... Its no fun having to settle for the fatties... mind you someone has to!!

If you feel you need bone a few pros to get you through a rough patch and then go for it. Just keep it to yourself.

Best of luck and Enjoy.

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