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Not confident in bed

  • 30-12-2011 2:00am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I only had sex for the first time a few weeks ago with a person who was much more experienced than me and needless to say it was awkward and a lot harder than it looks in the movie.

    there was times i felt that i had no idea what i was doing, (even though i knew the principals), I was unsure, un-confident, to be more specific my energy drained very quickly and i felt as though i was doing sit-ups, and instead of it being an enjoyable experience i walked away cursing my own inabilities and hoping i didn't make a show of myself.

    she was much more experienced than me and i knew this through her reputation rather that her actions. Im am very shy person when it comes to any kind of intimate situation and i think she is the same. but the whole lack of experience with any other girls leaves me kind of clueless how to have good sex,

    It turns out she likes me and there's a chance i might get with her again, but hopefully next time it will be better

    and tips or advice?



    hopefully next time


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  • #2
    A0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 666 ✭✭✭A0


    Notconfidentinbed wrote: »
    I only had sex for the first time a few weeks ago with a person who was much more experienced than me and needless to say it was awkward and a lot harder than it looks in the movie.

    Forget about the movie, real life is much more enjoyable. Movies are movies.
    there was times i felt that i had no idea what i was doing, (even though i knew the principals), I was unsure, un-confident, to be more specific my energy drained very quickly and i felt as though i was doing sit-ups, and instead of it being an enjoyable experience i walked away cursing my own inabilities and hoping i didn't make a show of myself.

    Exercise, get fitter and also remember it was your first time, with time you'll become more confident (more experience, you'll get to know each other, etc.).
    she was much more experienced than me and i knew this through her reputation rather that her actions. Im am very shy person when it comes to any kind of intimate situation and i think she is the same. but the whole lack of experience with any other girls leaves me kind of clueless how to have good sex,

    :confused: weird, do you mean she told you about that or you've heard gossips, etc.?
    Just see her more often and you'll be more experienced :P
    It turns out she likes me and there's a chance i might get with her again, but hopefully next time it will be better

    and tips or advice?

    Are you going out with her, dating, etc? Or it's just sex? Get to know each other better (not only sexwise) and it'll be certainly more enjoyable when you have sex together.


  • #3
    lace
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 400 ✭✭lace


    The only way to get better is practice. There are no magic secrets you can learn - you just have to try things out with your partner and find out what works for you (and her).

    You seem to really like this girl so stop worrying about her reputation. If she's into you (as she seems to be) she won't care that you're a little inexperienced. As the above poster mentioned, getting to know her will be key. If you're shy about sex it's best you only do it with people you're completely comfortable with. Get to know the girl and don't be afraid to talk about it with her. Let her know you're inexperienced. She may be able to suggest positions she likes or other things you could do.


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