problems getting a girlfriend

linconpark

im having problems getting a girlfriend and it is getting me down. Im 18 i've never had a proper girlfriend before and the only 2 places i can meet girls is at my school or at nightclubs.

At school I barely talk to any girls. i find it hard to talk to girls when im not drinking. As well as that it would be very difficult and awkward to start talking to girls at my school as i have basically never talked to any of them. They probably think i dont like them but its only i find it very hard to talk to them.

At nightclubs there is a very childish way of meeting girls and that is your mate would ask a girl to shift you or a girl would ask you to shift her friend. Normally these are girls you dont know. When I have went up and talked to girls I am either ignored or when i do get talking to them they dont seem too intrested in me.

the reason i am asking for advice on this is all my friends are in relationships, i have 5 months before i do my leaving cert and leave secondry school. And i would like to get a girlfriend before i go to collage.

LegacyUser

To be honest mate I wouldn't worry t0o much, I'm 22 now (still single!) and when I was 18 and in school all I wanted was a gf as well. In regards meeting girls in clubs, it's very very rare you'll meet someone you want to date in one, how can you talk or get to know someone in such a loud, crowded space? Any attraction is physical.

The girls in your school you've seen day in day out for years, again not really the most diverse group. The last thing you should want going to college is a GF, I had one, and whist I really cared for her, in reterospect it held me back, a lot.

You're going to meet so many girls, from all over the world, with such varying interests in a few short months. College is amazing. Don't even look at it as an opportunity to get a gf, date as many girls as you can, respect people, be outgoing and kind. If you're into music join a soc for that, or if you're into writing join your college paper, you'll meet people with similar interests and thats how you meet someone whose right for you.

Make the most of your last few months in school, hang with your mates, make out with random girls in clubs and leave it at that, then when you get to college be as outgoing and friendly as you can, before long it'll be second nature, then by the time you're 22 you'll be sitting looking back at all the friends you've made, girls you've been with who were amazing, who were disasters, who you loved, who broke your heart, and believe me you'll be glad it all happened.

It'd be convenient if we all ended up with the girl we sat beside in math, but the world dosen't work that way, and frankly it'd be boring as hell if it did.

best of luck! I wish I could do it all again!

lace

+1 to everything the above poster said.

Nail right on the head there. Amazing post with some amazing advice.

College is your chance for a fresh start. It may seem like everyone is in relationships and having sex, but lots of people don't get to that stage till they get to college! Don't settle for just any girl just because you want a girlfriend. Wait and see what your fresh start brings.