No gift from a parent.

LegacyUser

Hi just to say that I invested substantial on gifts for Mum and put a lot of thought into the wording and decoration for her card. She gave me -nothing-. It's not about the monetary wealth,it's about sentiment. That she didn't feel the desire to get me anything,so much as a deck of cards. Feel a bit hurt. Think she probably views presents from a money perspective and figured that I have enough,which I have but it's sad that she didn't feel the wish to express her love!....

Victor

Are you certain that there is nothing, or is it merely nothing yet?

dudara

I have a mother like this too - but I've long since learned that she doesn't express herself via presents. She prefers day to day actions. She'd much rather that I went to mass with her than buy her a present. Each to their own I suppose.

Equating presents to love is not the way to look at this.

Pipsqueak752

My Dad is like this. He always left the gift giving to be sorted by my mother. He likes his gifts, and is a big child when it comes to opening them, but it would never occur to him to hand a gift to someone, when they are handing one to him. Theres no badness in it though. Hes just old fashioned and grew up in the 40s in a house with very little money and much less Christmas spirit.

dudara is spot on - love and presents shouldnt be seen as the same thing.

CyberJuice

its still christmas day,theres still time to get a present

deisemum

dudara wrote: »

I have a mother like this too - but I've long since learned that she doesn't express herself via presents. She prefers day to day actions. She'd much rather that I went to mass with her than buy her a present. Each to their own I suppose.

Equating presents to love is not the way to look at this.

Sometimes it's the only way to look at it especially when your mother buys gifts for all your 8 siblings and you're the only one not to get anything. In fact I'd say it clarifies this for you.

Firetrap

Have you had problems with your mum before? Were you half expecting this? It seems a bit odd that she'd not get you something

Balmed Out

Are you sure everythings ok with your Mum?

If your mam put Christmas dinner on the table. That is a considerable effort, expense. Surely that is an expression of Love.