So he's not into me?

LegacyUser

Hi guys, first time poster.

So I went on a date with a guy. We had hung out around friends before but this was our first date. It seemed to go really well, lots of kissing and hand holding, lots in common, conversation flowed. We stayed out from 8 till 4am.

He didn't ask me to come home, he was respectful and sweet.

But now, 4 days later, i haven't heard anything from him (he would usually text me the next day if we were out with friends). My male friends told me not to text him first as if he liked me he would text me also, I don't want to come off as a stage 5 clinger. I liked his fb status just so he knew I wasn't avoiding him.

So the friends tell me, he's a write off. He's not into it, don't text him and annoy him. Move on.

I would appreciate the advice, i have been single 9 months and this was my first proper date, ever , I was in a long term relationship since I was 16. I'm 22 btw.

ElvisP

Move on luv

ElvisP

He didn't ask me to come home, he was respectful and sweet.

Aka. he does'n't want to shag you.

LegacyUser

ElvisP wrote: »

He didn't ask me to come home, he was respectful and sweet.

Aka. he does'n't want to shag you.

Ok, that's enough, thanks

ScarbCakes

Hi OP,

Not all men are moronic as demonstrated by trolling poster above. My now bf didn't call me for a week after our first date, I had completely moved on and organised a date with someone else. Turns out we were both afraid of seeming over-interested, we're now together 6 months.

Ickle Magoo

ElvisP, post deleted and taking a weeks holiday.

On your return please ensure you have taken the time to read the forum rules in the charter and abide by them; specifically regarding mature, constructive and civil advice.

CarMe

I was about to write saying move on etc when I realised that my bf who is asleep beside me and the dad to my baby, took days to text after a date in the early stages! I wasn't a bit clingy and was busy so it didn't bother toooo much, but the more he got to know me the more he made contact first, told me he loved me first etc. It's funny how you can forget these things! I would probably expect a text when he got home or the next day tbh though just to say it was a good night or something but don't get too stressed at all and don't write him off just yet.

Elmidena

Busy time of year hon text him saying something like "this is awkward not hearing from you, i was a bit unsure when to text you. I had fun but if youdon't want another date it's cool but let's not lose our friendship "

gypsy_rose

One text doesn't look mad or desperate, it's worth a try if you're still thinking about him. Just text saying something like,"hey, how's it going?" and if you hear nothing back you've got your answer. good luck

diverdad

Elmidena wrote: »

Busy time of year hon text him saying something like "this is awkward not hearing from you, i was a bit unsure when to text you. I had fun but if youdon't want another date it's cool but let's not lose our friendship "

Just text the guy something short and simple.

You had fun, he hung around with you for 8hrs until 4am. A little more interest than a ONS I'd imagin.
You held hands and you kissed the guy. So he wasn't alergic to you and he didn't stop you or fight you off.

One text. Might be worth that much. :rolleyes:

missbelle

Agree with the posters above - drop him a txt.

Could be shyness on his part, after all you guys have been friends for some time, but now things could potentially change from friendship to romantic relationship. you have a good base for a relationship/dating as you are already friends, but it can be nerve-wracking too
sounds like the date went well, so what have you got to lose by sending 1 text