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help me understand the relationship

  • 19-12-2011 11:59am
    #1
    valerievoda
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    i was having a debate with one of my indian friends and i feel my opinion is FACT but hes turned it into a debate cos he claims his is fact so this is it...
    he says that his mothers brothers kid is not related to him. i said it is his cousin and he says "they are not blood related if they are on ur mothers side"
    am i wrong or is he wrong? is it not a fact that cousins on your mother's side are equally related to a person as cousins on their father's side?
    he claims that only the cousins on his father's side are related so he can marry those on his mother's side. i know the cultures are different but is it not a fact in every culture that both sides are related?
    it just seems weird to me. i don't understand his logic behind it. he says it's all to do with surnames but it's to do with blood isn't it
    i didnt think relations were a matter of opinion or culture. i thought it was a well known fact that both sides were equally related. maybe he pretends they arent related but unless they are adopted they are. when i say this to him he thinks im forcing my opinions on him.


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  • #2
    Sleepy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,367 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    You're scientifically correct however given the way Indian culture views women, it's not really a surprise that their blood isn't considered equal to a man's.


  • #3
    MitchKoobski
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    Scientifically and biologically you are right, but he could be right in a cultural sense.


  • #4
    dafunk
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    I don't think you'll win this debate with him, he sounds far too stubborn, and in my opinion, too ignorant to understand logic. This makes no sense
    he says that his mothers brothers kid is not related to him. i said it is his cousin and he says "they are not blood related if they are on ur mothers side"


    So his mothers brothers kid is not his cousin as it is through his mother but he would be this girls cousin as he is through her father.

    If there's a history of in breeding in his family it's not a surprise that he doesn't understand basic concepts like blood relativity.


  • #5
    Taltos
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    OP - can you please clarify how this is a personal issue for you?

    Taltos


  • #6
    curlzy
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    Hey OP,

    You are completely correct, both sides are related. However, while it's nice to know you're right, if your friend holds opinions as stupid and backwards as this I would suggest you get some new and more intelligent friends.

    Best of luck.


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  • #7
    valerievoda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭valerievoda


    Sleepy wrote: »
    You're scientifically correct however given the way Indian culture views women, it's not really a surprise that their blood isn't considered equal to a man's.

    how does indian culture view women? it's just this guy treats women here so well. he has the utmost respect for them. that is shocking though if they go as far as to think that men's blood is more important...


  • #8
    valerievoda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭valerievoda


    Taltos wrote: »
    OP - can you please clarify how this is a personal issue for you?

    Taltos

    it's a personal issue for me as it has left me utterly confused and i feel upset that i can't agree with my friend on this one issue. i trust him completely but cannot understand his way of thinking on this one issue. i was upset that he felt i was "forcing my opinions on him" as i am not that kind of person. i respect that people have different opinions but as i said i didn't count this as an opinion given that it is a biological fact.

    thank you posters. may i just add.. when i said to him "you are blood related to your cousin," he said "then if i'm the same blood type as you id be blood related to you too" ??


  • #9
    Sleepy
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    valerievoda wrote: »
    how does indian culture view women? it's just this guy treats women here so well. he has the utmost respect for them. that is shocking though if they go as far as to think that men's blood is more important...
    Do a google on it, many Indian couples choose to abort a pregnancy when they discover the child is female... Women are very much second-class citizens over there. I'm not saying your friend believes such a thing to be correct but it can be hard to shake off all of one's cultural upbringing even if you disagree with much of it. For example: how many of us Irish would realise that the word "Eskimo" is considered offensive by the Inuit people? Yet, according to Canadian friends of mine at least, it's akin to referring to a traveller as a "pikey".


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