Silly Question but need answer

LegacyUser

Hi everyone.

Just to say in advance, Im not looking for a does he like me, or why wont he talk to me more type of anwers or he's not interested answers. My relationship that Im about to describe with this man is really complicated, I know people straight away assume alarm bells ect, but it really is. There's a lot of history here I cant go into it, but its something else Im asking.

As I said theres a lot of history, so we have had a lot of weeks not talking here and there, getting back together, ect. We have a connection, something keeps drawing us back. the sex is amazing, wonderful conversations, interests, ect.

but right now everything is tetchy, he got back in touch, his wanting to see me has been on a very sexual basis, Im very tempted, he''s the only guy Ive ever conected with properly on that score as well. But Ive refused as I said, its a no go unless we were together properly in a relationship, his answer has been, lets have some fun and see what happens then. I dont believe him though, I feel he;s been through a lot right now and even though he misses me, right now he wants a good time with me, but no attatchments. thats fair enough, everyone has their choice, but mine is important also and I want a relationship with him. And I wont give this guy hope that I'll sleep with him again and leave.....especially since I dont believe he will iniatiate a relationship anytime soon.

All that in the background my actual concern will seem minor to what Ive just said, but basically after chatting today on Facebook, we phoned the last night, but my phone is dead, so we often use fb to communicate otherwise (different home locations) today he iniatiated chat, it was grand, chatting away, but towards the end he seemed bored, one worded answers, ect, and he mentioned half way through about going to bed soon.....I said yeah and said it was fine, he chatted a bit more and then jokingly ended it, saying thats it Im off to bed.

I know it seems trivial, but it seemed really terse. the conversation wasnt thrilling either. I guess its just stinging as everything is hard as it is right now. I love this man so much. Everyday without him hurts terribly. The silly question Im asking is, he is finally bored with me? It was only half ten when he ended it. Personally I hate fb talking, nothing comes across clearly ect. But with finances and phone availability, its a neccessity.

silly

He's made it clear that he only wants sex, so I suppose it's fair to say that he would be bored with fb chats.
You want a relationship, he doesn't. Unfortunately, if you dont want to be his fcuk buddy then you will have to move on and find someone else. I'm sure there are plenty other guys out there that you can find that great connection with.

Firetrap

Silly has given you a very sensible answer. He's only interested in you because you because you're a female that he can have sex with. Or to put it extremely crudely, a hole and a heartbeat. Your sticking to your guns on this occasion has revealed his true self to you. That he's not all that interested in you when chats don't have the end result of him getting to have sex with you. So you have your answer really. He's not into you. He's never going to be.

LegacyUser

He's not into your personality, he's willing to chat to you and put the effort in if he can get sex from it but if he's not going to get sex then he has no reason to bother talking to you, he's not interested in you so of course it would get boring. It's very straight forward.

Miss Fluff

CONFUSEDGIRL21 wrote: »

The silly question Im asking is, he is finally bored with me?

Not so much bored as simply not interested in you romantically. I feel really sorry for you hon as it's evident that you're mad about him and he doesn't want anything more than sex from you, that is bound to sting. I think emailing him and having the chats is a waste of time tbh, it's not going to go anywhere so I'd defriend him if I were you and try and get on with things - this is clearly a non-starter.