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  • 13-12-2011 10:57am
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    post removed. Got some sound advice, thanks to all who replied.


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 BraziliaNZ
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    Well, it's horrible, they shouldn't have done it and whatnot, but sometimes people just fall for each other, and their want for each other means more to them than you. She was probably bored and unhappy with your relationship if she's doing this after 10 years. I'm just playing devil's advocate here, but people don't just decide to do these things, it's obviously all new and exciting for them, so your best bet is to just drop both of them forever and get on with your life. Either way your relationship would have ended sooner or later I fear. Good luck.


  • Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,910 Big Bag of Chips
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    You're wondering how she has moved on "so quickly". This is out of the blue for you... but has been ongoing for her for a long time.

    The worst thing about their behaviour is not that they fell for each other, but that they were too cowardly to finish with their respective partners to be with each other.

    There's not much you can do. You are entitled to feel angry, sad, betrayed, confused and you probably have accepted that you've lost her as a girl friend, and him as a friend, so you will also be grieving the loss of both relationships.

    If you really want answers, if you think you could handle the truth from them, then I think she owes you at least that. Although you'll probably never get the whole truth from her.

    Work through the various feelings you are having. Accept that its ok to feel everything you do, and in time you will move on from both of them.

    It's not nice. It's a horrible time, and I know it feels like the end of your world as you know it, but in time, it will ease. And you will be happy again.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 BraziliaNZ
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    You're wondering how she has moved on "so quickly". This is out of the blue for you... but has been ongoing for her for a long time.

    The worst thing about their behaviour is not that they fell for each other, but that they were too cowardly to finish with their respective partners to be with each other.

    There's not much you can do. You are entitled to feel angry, sad, betrayed, confused and you probably have accepted that you've lost her as a girl friend, and him as a friend, so you will also be grieving the loss of both relationships.

    If you really want answers, if you think you could handle the truth from them, then I think she owes you at least that. Although you'll probably never get the whole truth from her.

    Work through the various feelings you are having. Accept that its ok to feel everything you do, and in time you will move on from both of them.

    It's not nice. It's a horrible time, and I know it feels like the end of your world as you know it, but in time, it will ease. And you will be happy again.

    The truth is, the two of them fell for each other, and they didn't have the guts to tell him. There's not going to be anymore to it than that really, so there's no point in working yourself up and giving them the Spanish inquisition. It's hardly an ideal situation for them either. You'll get people on this thread calling them scumbags etc but people are people, this stuff happens all the time, the poor OP got the bad end of the deal but again his gf and mate are only human and I'm sure they'd rather have had a more conventional relationship.
    Try not to hate too much or get jealous OP, life's a total bitch sometimes, but you need to deal with it as best you can.


  • Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 11,382 lordgoat
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    Dude all i can say is try not to old onto the anger and bitterness for too long. You'll need it at the start to get through it. But remember you've done nothing wrong in this situation and underneath everything you're feeling right now is who you are. Don't let what you've gone through ruin a good part of you.

    Keep going, lean on your real friends, they'll understand and cut all contact with the other two. If you bump into them out, ignore them and get out of there.

    You'll get there.


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