How do I talk to my Ex?

LegacyUser

Two years ago I separated from my girlfriend of 3/4 years. We are both in our mid twenties. We broke up because we were both very busy at work. We never got to see each other and when we did, it felt like we didn't know each other at times. We stopped talking. I eventually got so wound up about it that I decided the relationship had run it's course. I didn't know at the time if it would be a short-term or definitive break up and I wasn't sure if I wanted to let her go, but we went our separate ways.

Somehow, for the last 2 years I have managed to avoid bumping into her. This is despite us having a lot of close friends in common (built up over the years we were together). I would talk to them, she would talk to them, but never have I talked to them about her. We've avoid going on nights out with our friends together. I have just avoid the situation. I have avoided her. We haven't spoken a word since we broke up.

I've met plenty of girls since then, I've been happy enough with my life. I know she has moved on, seen some other guys since. But lately I have feeling kind of sad. Sad that I cannot talk to her. Worried that she might not write back to a text. She's always on-line on Facebook, as am I. I see her talking to my friends, she sees me talking to hers, but even on Facebook we have managed to stay apart.

I don't know why I want to talk to her. I think miss her friendship a little. I don't know if I should talk to her, or how she will react.

LegacyUser

Anyone?

dafunk

Just bite the bullet, email her, be clear about your intentions, what are they? Do you just want to be mates or do you want her back? If you just want to be friends make sure you're clear about that. Tell her what you've said here, you miss her friendship and you don't like the way you avoid each other. If she replies well then send a few emails back and forth and hopefully in no time you'll find yourselves not avoiding each other and perhaps having a real conversation.

Nothing to lose, if she doesn't reply the situation is no worse than it is now.

LegacyUser

I think I'd be upset if she didn't want to talk to me. I don't particularly like the comfortableness around friends that exists now, I can only imagine that getting worse.

Carriexx

i think you should go forit - just write her a small mail - if she doesnt relpy then you know you have tried!!

Wompa1

I think you should forget it and move on...I don't think much good can from it.