Standing up for myself...

wexfordgent

MetzgerMeister wrote: »

With regard to your thinking that you doing everything you can to make her happy being taken for granted, I understand exactly what you mean. I have been there myself.

It's like as though they see just how far they can go and what they can get away with. Do not let this happen. You MUST stand up for yourself each and every time. Don't let her think she can walk all over you. If you let her, she will have no respect for you.

Stand up for yourself and stick to your guns. It will be hard and you will want to say anything to make her happy again but don't. You will find that once you do this and make her apologise, things will be a lot better.

The girl that I had to stand up for myself did this. I got so sick of her sh!t that I broke up with her. A day went by and she contacted me asking if we could meet up. I said no but maybe in a few days time. Eventually we did and she was so apologetic it was as though she was a different person. I didn't get back with her because I didn't want her sh!t anymore.

Since then she has had total respect for me whenever I see her out.

I hope you get through this and you and your girl sort things out.

Well done, i wish i could do the same

MetzgerMeister

wexfordgent wrote: »

Well done, i wish i could do the same

It took me a year and a half to do it! Life is much too short to be plagued with rubbish from another person. The only person who is going to make us happy is ourselves.

The main thing that stopped me and might be stopping you is the fear of change. As in, what will life be like without her (when things are good). Do the bad times outweigh the good times? If so, it's time to get rid.

I hope you gain the courage

wexfordgent

MetzgerMeister wrote: »

It took me a year and a half to do it! Life is much too short to be plagued with rubbish from another person. The only person who is going to make us happy is ourselves.

The main thing that stopped me and might be stopping you is the fear of change. As in, what will life be like without her (when things are good). Do the bad times outweigh the good times? If so, it's time to get rid.

I hope you gain the courage

this is more than likely my issue. bads times are 90 % of the time.

Ickle Magoo

Given you your own thread here wexfordgent so the other thread is left for advice relevant to the poster that started it.

Cheers. :cool:

tinkerbell

OP, I really recommend that you see a counsellor. It's what you need to do.

Taltos

Closing this thread as Wexfordgent already has a thread open in relation to his relationship issues.

Taltos