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can someone fall back in love with you after time apart

  • 07-12-2011 12:57pm
    #1
    dancesatnight
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 155 ✭✭


    can you make some one fall back in love with you. now im not talking about tricks or anything bad i mean do u think its possible for someone to put them selves in a postion where an old realtionship has end you have spent some time apart and then to re inject your self in to a group of friends and to place your self in the best possible postion to get the person to fall in love with you again. after you have had time to fix the bad habits u had before with couselling and pulling yout thumb out of your ass basically? also i have a a few friends singing good things about me how im changing for the better and i have never seem to be happier and not crazy or mad in bad ways ? basically im still mad about my ex and i took a long hard look at why things went bum over face and ended

    anyone apoinions would be greatly accepted.


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  • #2
    silly
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,722 ✭✭✭silly


    You can't "get" someone to love you again.
    If its meant to be, they will do it themselves.


  • #3
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    Its possible but then its also 'possible' that I can marry George Clooney.... No one here can tell you anything other that it is possible.

    All i will say to you is to try to impress them but dont hound them to falling for you or it will have the oppposite affect..


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Honestly? Sounds to me like you're clutching at straws. How recent is the break up? I ask because it sounds to me like you're in that phase of recovery where the injured party holds out hope of a reunion and it rarely happens. Probably sounds quite harsh but I don't believe a person can truly move on when they are holding out hope that it will work a second time round, probably not what you want to hear....


  • #5
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,661 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    It depends on a lot of factors. Why did you break up? How long have you been apart? How does s/he feel about you?

    I got back together with an ex. It wasn't easy, we both had to work hard to make it work, there was a lot of patience, frustration, hurt, trust issues and so on. But our feelings for each other never really went away when we broke up, so there was always a slightly open door there for the chance of a reunion.

    You can't FORCE somebody to love you, but you can give it a go if you feel there's something still there.


  • #6
    doyle61
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 442 ✭✭doyle61


    Op just one question; are you changing for the right reasons ie it sounds to me like your changing with the sole goal of getting your ex back rather than looking at yourself seeing a fault and changing it for yourself. Your friends have noticed a positive difference in you but to who's benefit is that change aimed???
    It sounds like it's a positive change which will benefit you in the future, it mightn't be with your ex but it will work in your favour in the end.
    As for is it possible to get back with your ex and everything to work out, hell ye but remember their your ex for a reason. I broke up for a few months (years ago) and we got back together and got married and have a beautiful baby girl. The same happened to a good friend of mine.
    It is possible, it does happen and people do end up happy ever after BUT there in a tiny minority.
    Best of luck op


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  • #7
    dancesatnight
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 155 ✭✭dancesatnight


    we broke up in aufust coz i had had a i was being a bit of a nob to be honest and then we kinda got back to together but it went bum over face coz i was walking around on egg shells basically. i love this girl so much.
    i know there is something there coz she still reads my blog every now and and again.

    i have been talking with a few friends and basically ive been told i need to get her sister back on my side and then i can start reinjecting my self back in to her socail life again. im willing to put in the hard graft to be honest. i am seeing a counsler any way and had a good old chin wag with her about it and she thinks its worth a shoot. faith how did u come to decide to give things another go did u two just start hanging out more or did u sit down and talk it out.?


  • #8
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,661 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    We always stayed in touch, meeting up every couple of months. One night, we had a couple of drinks and spent the night together. We brushed it off the next day, but it happened again a while later. After that, we discussed the idea of getting back together, and initially he said he didn't think it was a good idea because of several issues (distance, timing etc). But we started spending more and more time together, and eventually just admitted that we were back together. Not the most romantic of stories, but it did mean we took things very slowly and were sure about it every step of the way :).


  • #9
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    Is this the ex who told you she was pregnant but wasnt? If so OP I would think twice about getting involved again.


  • #10
    dancesatnight
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 155 ✭✭dancesatnight


    I am a friend wrote: »
    Is this the ex who told you she was pregnant but wasnt? If so OP I would think twice about getting involved again.


    Nope its not the same girl


  • #11
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    dancesatnight wrote: »
    can you make some one fall back in love with you. now im not talking about tricks or anything bad i mean do u think its possible for someone to put them selves in a postion where an old realtionship has end you have spent some time apart and then to re inject your self in to a group of friends and to place your self in the best possible postion to get the person to fall in love with you again. after you have had time to fix the bad habits u had before with couselling and pulling yout thumb out of your ass basically? also i have a a few friends singing good things about me how im changing for the better and i have never seem to be happier and not crazy or mad in bad ways ? basically im still mad about my ex and i took a long hard look at why things went bum over face and ended

    anyone apoinions would be greatly accepted.

    If im being honest i am going through something similar recently. Realised what i had after it was long gone.

    i think when people feel strongly about someone they broke up with they go through a phase of thinking that their last chance of love is gone but that's not true and the important thing is to have an abundance mentality and be open to endless possibilities. Enjoy life for your own sake and no one else. come what may, if your ex and other women see you enjoying life to the fullest then their opinion of you will change for the better. Here is a great quote
    "When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long
    and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the
    one which has opened for us." - Alexander Graham Bell


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