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Friend with depression

  • 06-12-2011 2:38pm
    #1
    eat_the_music
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8 ✭


    Hi all. I would appreciate some advice on this, I'll try to keep it quite short.

    I am worried about my friend and flatmate who is suffering pretty badly from depression. She started taking medication when she moved to Ireland last January and has been on them since then. Usually she is ok but for the past month it has gotten really bad. She is crying all day, every day, and it is a real struggle for her to get out of bed in the morning. She had some issues at home and moved here to get away from them and start a new life. But I think the main root of her depression is that she has never had a boyfriend and is just terribly lonely. She goes on a few dates here and there and tells me she's falling in love with whoever she is out with at the time - but she hardly knows these guys and it never lasts. She seems to really fall fast for guys but nothing ever comes of it.

    I only found out a couple of months ago that she has Asperger's Syndrome, which made sense once she told me as she does seem to view the world in her own different way. However once I asked further about it she told me she had been diagnosed but had never gotten any treatment for it back home and didn't even know that much about it, which I found very strange. I am starting to think she gets depressed because she doesn't know how to cope with her Asperger's, and doesn't realise that it could make her do and see things a certain way, and she should be treated for this and not depression.

    So I guess I'm just looking for some advice on how to help her. I never really know what to say to her when she's crying and telling me she's afraid of being alone forever. She is pretty and fun to hang out with (when she's having a good day) and has a lot of good qualities. What should I do?

    Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    Reesy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 716 ✭✭✭Reesy


    Hi OP,

    Might this http://ie.reachout.com/help-a-friend/mental-health-problems/depression-2/ be of some use to you?


  • #3
    cafecolour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    I'd try and get out and join some activity clubs so she has a circle of friends and a social life.

    If she's lonely and waiting for a relationship to 'save her', it's going to be disaster. She'll be desperate when looking, clingy and co-dependent in the relationship.

    She needs to develop a life where a relationship is a plus, but not everything she's counting on.


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