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Struggling

  • 04-12-2011 4:02am
    #1
    epiphony
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 50 ✭✭


    So, I don't know if I'm allowed create a topic just for this but I just needed somewhere to vent for a while.

    I have been struggling a lot lately with feelings for women, even though I have been straight for as long as I can remember. I have always loved guys, I have been with a good few guys and never thought otherwise until this summer.

    So, on top of struggling with these feelings I also think I have recently fallen for one of my friends. She is beautiful and funny and every time she hugs me I just don't want to let go. I don't think there is a more devastating feeling than knowing that I want so badly to kiss her, but knowing that it will never happen. She has had a boyfriend for 5 years now and even though I have only known her for a few months, I just feel so strongly for her.

    Has anyone else here had feelings for a friend that were never reciprocated? And if yes, how did you deal with it? I just don't know how to proceed in our relationship. I work with her so I see her most days of the week and don't know how to continue in our friendship when she has no idea that I do really like her.


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  • #2
    Moon Indigo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 285 ✭✭Moon Indigo


    I have been in your shoes poster. In my experience there is no quick fix. When I was younger I felt like this for someone but I found when I looked back on it alot of it was to do with me projecting my feelings.
    I mean I was struggling with my sexuality and there was this woman who was a friend and now all the things I simply saw as friend attributes before now I suddenly saw as something more. I think maybe you need to get some time to get your head straight and try and find out more about what you are really feeling. Is there someone you can confide in about how you are struggling? I don't mean mention what you feel for the friend just what's going on in you in your head? I find it helps if you can talk to someone.


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