sex during pregnancy

marble

I'll try keep it short!
Myself and my OH are expecting a new arrival in a few weeks.sex in the early stages of her pregnancy was as normal,but i found as it went on,it felt different.i dont feel in any way less attracted to her and cant wait to get back in the saddle proper again.the problem is that shes having a difficult pregnancy and she cant understand why i'm not looking for sex like i was before she fell pregnant.

anyone else have this problem before?
is it normal?

I am a friend

So why exactly dont you want to have sex with her?

curlzy

Hey OP,

I've never been pregnant so this is only 2nd hand info from friends. Basically they said that towards the end you start getting really emotional and also a bit scared of the birth. You want to still feel like you're still attractive and it's really upsetting if your partner makes excuses not to have sex. Now it might be that you're afraid of hurting her, or maybe it just feels a little weird. Remember to go gentle and as weird as you feel it is, she feels weird ALL THE TIME. So make the effort to make sweet gentle love to her, no need to go hell for leather. Just make sure she know you think she's gorgeous and you're still very attracted to her. It'll reassure her and bring you closer together. Remember this is a scary time for her.

Best of luck to all of you.

Ickle Magoo

Hey OP,

Like most things to with sex, it's really depends on the individual - I know of women and men who are completely put off the idea of having sex when they/their partner is pregnant while others get even hornier.

The main thing is to keep communicating with your partner how you feel and that it has nothing to do with your overall feelings for them or your commitment to the relationship.

All the best

I am a friend

curlzy wrote: »

Hey OP,

I've never been pregnant so this is only 2nd hand info from friends. Basically they said that towards the end you start getting really emotional and also a bit scared of the birth. You want to still feel like you're still attractive and it's really upsetting if your partner makes excuses not to have sex. Now it might be that you're afraid of hurting her, or maybe it just feels a little weird. Remember to go gentle and as weird as you feel it is, she feels weird ALL THE TIME. So make the effort to make sweet gentle love to her, no need to go hell for leather. Just make sure she know you think she's gorgeous and you're still very attracted to her. It'll reassure her and bring you closer together. Remember this is a scary time for her.

Best of luck to all of you.

This is really good advice.... I am prob at the same stage as your gf and the best thing you can do is talk to her... Emotions are high and as curlzy said, she is scared (well I am) and emotional... I am very conscious of the extra weight and maybe she is too so tell her how fab she looks and cuddle loads... You will be back to normal soon.

ted1

me situation is different.

first pregnancy my Wife couldn't get enough of me , and the pregnancy just gone her libdo totally disappeared

you should try a few different positions. it'll be more comfortable for her, but also you may find it better for yourself.

if you are worrried about hurting the baby, doggy may be a good one as it allows you to control th edepth of penetration, you also won't see the bump which may mentally help.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Mate just fake it til the baby's born. She's going through something you can't even contemplate. Its not like you have to go through taliban torture methods - you just have to have sex that feels a bit different

ted1

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

Mate just fake it til the baby's born. She's going through something you can't even contemplate. Its not like you have to go through taliban torture methods - you just have to have sex with someone a bit less attractive than normal

Where are you getting the less atractive part from?

Bottle_of_Smoke

ted1 wrote: »

Where are you getting the less atractive part from?

sorry i misread. have edited post

IvyTheTerrible

OP, I'm expecting a baby in a couple of months and while my libido has hit the roof, my partner was initially very nervous about sex during the pregnancy. He was (and still is, a bit) afraid of hurting the baby, or the baby "knowing" what he was doing!. Perhaps this is partly why you don't feel like having sex with your wife (especially as you say you still find her attractive.). There is a chapter in the book "What to expect when you are expecting" aimed at dads-to-be and it helped us allay our worries about hurting the baby. Also, on one of my doctor visits, my partner came along and asked the doctor about sex and the doctor telling him it's ok helped as well. The main thing is, communicate your worries to your wife, and make it clear that you still find her just as attractive as always.

LegacyUser

Once my OH found out I was preg he didnt want sex untill after baby was born........8 mths after baby was born so 17 mths WITHOUT ANY

Neyite

I agree with Ivy, I know that baby is well protected in there but even so, at the back of my mind I worry a little bit that an orgasm will feel like an earthquake or something to the little one inside me. Now, it hasnt stopped us, but we are a lot more careful and probably do it less now I'm pregnant.

The difference is that I get told an awful lot how gorgeous I am, with my little bump and there are lots of hugs and snogs so we both know we are still fancied. Its still intimate, just not swinging from the lights anymore.