Relationship Dilemma

wonderful..not

Ok so pretty much I have nowhere to go so I said i'd post here ... Ok so Im a gay female and My girlfriend of two years broke up with me Friday. I had my friend over from Galway, Im in college elsewhere. So basically my gf or ex i suppose kissed this girlfriend of me ...she was hammered...but we came home and went to bed and I woke up to my gf cuddling into the girl from galway and trying to hold her hand.
She broke up with the following morning saying she had a connection with the girl that when she brushed off her hand she got butterflies and that it was so nice to have to someone talk to her and have tht connection(with someone shes only met once) etc...So we talk about it i ask her nt to talk to the girl from galway and asked could we give it another go, she said ok?....but broke up wt me again on he saturday...I find out tht she was asking the girl from galway to text her etc bleh....
I come upto college last night go over to her apartment and just chill talk for a while and I find out shes been texting this girl asking her soes she feel the same way...I know I should take the hint
But after all of this I still want to be with her , the most difficult thing is she lives like in the apartment block right beside mine, were doing the same course and I really don't know what to do , I know I'd be an idiot to take her back...well if she ever wants me back because right now she doesnt know what she wants...but i don't know what to do any help or advice would be lovely...thanks so much

stephen_n

Ok going to go with brutal honesty on this one. Your EX does know what she wants and clearly it's not you. From what you have posted she has made this quite clear but you are choosing to ignore it, obviously because you don't want it to be true. You are trying to create a reality where by this might be different when in fact it never will be. That little morsel of hope your clinging too "she doesn't know what she wants" is a smoke screen she does know what she wants she just doesn't know if she can have it and sure if not well then you will have to do for now. Untill of course the next person comes along that gives her butterflies yada yada. Essentially she is not ready for a relationship and hanging in there for the scraps that she is willing to give you will only serve to damage your future chances in relationships as you will possibly end up bringing the baggage of this one into future ones! Walk away now, go through the pain that it will cause and choose to learn a little of the strength you posses, which in time will serve you well when you find someone who wants what you want!

Moon Indigo

Its still very very raw and it has just happened. I would say try as hard as you can to give it some space and time. I know you are probably hoping she will get back with you but would you really want someone who would treat you so flippantly after 2 years? Try find some other friends or activites to do to distract you till you can get your head clear. I really get the impression that she dosent want to be with you and it sounds like she has made her choice. Really hope your okay all the best take it easy on yourself

louiseamd

Hi guys,
Here's the story... I've been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks and things were going well. I haven't heard from in 2 days. Is he out of credit? Am I being neurotic?
He was not like any other guys I have been with and I didn't want to rush anything with him. He told me that everything was up to me. Now I think he's had enough!

OldNotWIse

Sorry to butt in or "bump". I found out last night that my girlfriends ex has been texting her and telling her how much she still loves her. My girlfriend says that she feels sorry for her ex and that there is nothing there but I think she should have told her that her texting was inappropratiate (at 4am especially!) She knows that we are together now and it seems she has no respect for our relationship. It would appear she wants to come between us. My gf thinks that ignoring the texts is the best strategy but I disagree. I think she should call her ex and tell her that her behaviour is out of order, and I feel let down that she hasn't already.

She has also renaged on plans for us to spend Christmas together. A family member booked flights to come and visit her the day before holidays begin, so she will not be spending the time with me. Again, a complete lack of respect for our relationship. He knows we are together (we have met before) and of course he knew we were planning to spend Christmas together but he didnt care, and went ahead and booked his flights anyway. Now she has to accomodate and entertain him over the holidays and I have become the afterthough...again.

Am I being a pushover?