guys that cry

cena

do women like guys that aren;t affraid to cry

moco

I wouldn't want a man who blubbed all the time for no real reason but crying when the occasion calls for it, I have no problem with.

x Purple Pawprints x

Yes because it shows they can actually feel emotion. Never understood the whole "boys don't cry" mentality.

Kiera

The first time i realised i loved my bf was when i saw him cry. We were watching this horrible program about these poor mentally challenged kids being abused in a home in England. We were both lying on the couch with me at the front so i couldn't really see him but i turned cause i couldn't watch anymore and was bawling crying and looked up at him and he was silently crying too. My heart went out to him as I'd never seen him like that before and i totally fell for him in that second.

Havent seen him cry since but we dont watch anything like that anymore.

Ickle Magoo

Do I like guys that aren't so emotionally stunted or repressed that certain emotional situations move them to tears? Absolutely. I much prefer that/think that's much healthier than the never cry and cry at the drop of a hat that's at either end of that spectrum.

irishh_bob

i cried one night two weeks ago , seeing the boys in green qualify for euro 2012 was too much

Saaron

If they need to cry then sure, there's nothing wrong with that. If I feel very down or upset I'll cry about it and my Boyfriend will often be there to make me feel better. I'd like to know that if he were in the same situation he wouldn't feel that he has to hold back crying just because men have to act tough etc

So yes, I like men that aren't afraid to cry.

Links234

I've no idea why it's such a taboo for men to cry? seriously, emotional repression is bad.

Kiera

Links234 wrote: »

I've no idea why it's such a taboo for men to cry? seriously, emotional repression is bad.

I guess they feel they need to be big and strong all the time which is silly.

boomkatalog

I had a boyfriend who cried at least twice a week for two years, and I've spent the last almost three years with a man who has shed literally one single tear in all the time I've known him. And even that one tear was in private, and he refused to allow himself to let go and be emotional.

I'd rather something in the middle, not someone who cries more than me, but I would like to know my boyfriend is ABLE to cry :pac:

badtinegirl

Ok for somethings birth of a child etc but football is not one.

Conor Bourke

badtinegirl wrote: »

Ok for somethings birth of a child etc but football is not one.

I can totally understand fellas crying over football- I'm mad about sport and have cried over significant wins for my team(s), especially if you're actually at the game and get all caught up in the emotion of the atmosphere. Dunno about qualifying for Europe though, a bit premature maybe? :pac::pac::pac: Having said that, I wonder how much of that is guys getting that little bit more emotional coz they've had a few beers during the match?

I would be a bit pissed if I was with a guy who could cry over a sport result but not over something genuinely terrible (like a relative's death, etc), I'd find that quite strange.

the_syco

Links234 wrote: »

I've no idea why it's such a taboo for men to cry? seriously, emotional repression is bad.

Kiera wrote: »

I guess they feel they need to be big and strong all the time which is silly.

Ever come cut your knee when climbing a tree? Scrap your arm off the ground when you fall off your bike? If you're a lad, most of the time you'll be told "big boys don't cry" as a way of shutting you up. After being told this a few dozen times, you won't cry, and the emotion is repressed. As well as that, if you cry at anything, you'll be teased by the pack for crying as group mentality in teenage boys usually see crying as a form of weakness.

So when you eventually join the adult world, some men do not cry, as they have been taught not to. If he cries in your company, it's probably as he feels comfortable showing his emotions to you.

the_syco

Waryaa wrote: »

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Novella

badtinegirl wrote: »

Ok for somethings birth of a child etc but football is not one.

Don't agree with that. I've cried at football matches. So has my brother. I didn't think it was fine for me, but not for him on the basis that I'm a girl and he's a guy. I mean, how would that make sense? We were both feeling the same emotion, why shouldn't we be allowed express it in the same way?

Anyway, I've no problem with guys crying. I agree entirely with what Ickle has said.

Ave Sodalis

My boyfriend cried the first time I told him I loved him

Kumejima

I think that guys are just hardwired to be able to keep their emotions in check but tend to be led around by their sexual urges.
Seems to work kind of differently in girls though...

Das Kitty

Kumejima wrote: »

I think that guys are just hardwired to be able to keep their emotions in check but tend to be led around by their sexual urges.
Seems to work kind of differently in girls though...

Based on what evidence do you think this?

Ickle Magoo

Kumejima wrote: »

I think that guys are just hardwired to be able to keep their emotions in check but tend to be led around by their sexual urges.
Seems to work kind of differently in girls though...

That might be how it works for you and yours but I can assure you, it isn't universal.

Ophiopogon

I don't like to cry and very rarely have so honestly if I was with someone who cried a lot I wouldn't really like it.

The Magpie

There's a time and place... I don't feel comfortable around overly emotional people, regardless of gender!:)

gmac102

i wouldnt be a crier so i find ppl who do cry uncomfortable to be around... my ex bf used to cry everything i brought up an issue i was having with him... i always felt annoyed by this.

having said that i dont mind a man who cries but not for silly things

LeeHoffmann

I think that guys are just hardwired to be able to keep their emotions in check but tend to be led around by their sexual urges.
Seems to work kind of differently in girls though...

:rolleyes: and women are hardwired to be emotional, time of the month and all that. Can't be logical, shouldn't be allowed in the workplace

I'm surprised at all the responses about men crying too much. I thought it was widely-accepted that men don't cry enough (i.e. when they need to) and that repressing emotions and bottling up problems has been linked to higher numbers of depression and suicide in men. Knowing that men face social stigma about crying, why do so many women seem to feel the need to emphasise 'don't cry too much'. I'm wondering whether you'd respond the same if the question was 'do you like women who cry?' (genuine question). I think everyone should cry when they need/want to, but I hide it too

Ophiopogon

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

:rolleyes: and women are hardwired to be emotional, time of the month and all that. Can't be logical, shouldn't be allowed in the workplace

I'm surprised at all the responses about men crying too much. I thought it was widely-accepted that men don't cry enough (i.e. when they need to) and that repressing emotions and bottling up problems has been linked to higher numbers of depression and suicide in men. Knowing that men face social stigma about crying, why do so many women seem to feel the need to emphasise 'don't cry too much'. I'm wondering whether you'd respond the same if the question was 'do you like women who cry?' (genuine question). I think everyone should cry when they need/want to, but I hide it too

Well I suppose I would say no I don't. I mean if you want/need to cry fair enough but I don't really want to see it. As I said I don't really cry myself so I don't understand when other people sometimes freely cry.

I'm not heartless though I do understand the need to cry over death or pain.

Kiera

The Magpie wrote: »

There's a time and place... I don't feel comfortable around overly emotional people, regardless of gender!:)

I agree, i've one friend who cries about EVERYTHING. We all just slag her now when she starts but when new people are around it can get pretty embarrassing. And she's always sober so its not like you can blame drink for her constant bawling (but we usually do even if its only 11am in the morning ).

cena

Kiera wrote: »

I agree, i've one friend who cries about EVERYTHING. We all just slag her now when she starts but when new people are around it can get pretty embarrassing. And she's always sober so its not like you can blame drink for her constant bawling (but we usually do even if its only 11am in the morning ).

This is about guys not girls. Please get back on track

Kiera

cena wrote: »

This is about guys not girls. Please get back on track

Eh i know, i was replying to someone elses post. Wasnt trying to take it off topic.

cena

Kiera wrote: »

Eh i know, i was replying to someone elses post. Wasnt trying to take it off topic.

I wasn't picking on you just using as references

Wibbs

cena wrote: »

This is about guys not girls. Please get back on track

Cena if you have an issue with a post or poster please report it, rather than backseat mod. Thanks.

cena

Wibbs wrote: »

Cena if you have an issue with a post or poster please report it, rather than backseat mod. Thanks.

I don't have any problem

miec

I have no problem with a man crying, I see it as him being able to express his emotions in a healthy way.

Acacia

No problems with guys crying at all, I think it's good to let out emotions.

I've never actually seen my BF cry, though I think that's cause he feels more uncomfortable about it than I do. Come to think of it, I've rarely seen most of my male friends/relations cry at all. However, I do remember my older brother crying at my uncle's funeral (he committed suicide, my brother was very close to him) and it really affected me (i.e. set me off crying as well!). I realised it was probably the first time I'd ever seen him cry, he is my big, tough, older brother after all. I haven't seen him cry since then, but I thought it was very sweet ( for want of a better word) at the time.

Crying's very catharic. I always thought I was pretty in touch with my emotions, but learnt in counselling that I'd repressed a lot of stuff and never cried about it when I should have. I felt so much better after it and could just let go.

So in summary, +1 for crying!:p

strobe

Kiera wrote: »

. We all just slag her now when she starts but when new people are around it can get pretty embarrassing. And she's always sober so its not like you can blame drink for her constant bawling (but we usually do even if its only 11am in the morning ).

That sounds pretty mean Kiera.

Kiera

strobe wrote: »

That sounds pretty mean Kiera.

Are you a dude? Did it make you cry? :P

Busi Girl

Don't mind fellas that cry once they've a valid reason for it! And I cant stand girls that cry for no reason on a night out...imo they shouldn't drink if all there going to do it bawl after one vodka...
Don't watch X-factor that often but saw the US version last night for a bit...Nicole Scherzinger crying after almost every song....pull it together like.
For that reason alone i'm going to bypass X-factor for the rest of the season

x Purple Pawprints x

I agree with Acacia, it is very cathartic. Tbh I'm not a girl that cries at every little thing. I'll cry if I have a reason. That said I will admit that I do cry sometimes watching those animal rescue shows but that's probably to do with my job. Actually anything animal-y that's even a little bit sad can get me going.. Anyway, I'm going off-topic. If a guy isn't afraid to cry and let his emotions show I would find that an attractive trait tbh.

Snowie

as man its simple...

Sometimes you gotta hug it out....

Other time you gotta cry it out...

Humans need to cry women need to cry as do men need to cry Its not something to be ashamed of its something that one has to do..

Weather its like what Kiera said about her boyfriend, bring over the way there children were treated..

well similar to him I watched a program called "don't call me stupid" about dyslexics, Im dyslexic too I had a tough time as a kid through learning experiences and the first time I was able to really relate to someone about how I am as a person was through people as well as the presenter who all had the same problem as me.

I cried as much i think for them as i did for me (self pitty ) but none the less it was fookin upsetting for me to watch..

I like to think of my self a s confidant man a strong willed person but if somethings bothering me and has enough emotional value, well then I may have to cry to get rid of it.. From what Ive found the odd cry can really make you feel better, levying you like a phoenix from the ashes .....

I hope haven't ranted of to much

saa

Do I like men who aren't afraid to cry or do I prefer my man to bottle it all up..
hmmm..

MagicMarker

I had tears in my eyes multiple times while watching Warrior. Anyone who doesn't cry at least once while watching is dead inside.

Charity2020

cena wrote: »

do women like guys that aren;t affraid to cry

Yes, shows a human side.....

Storminateacup

I'd be more unsettled by guys who never cried. That said, I've only seen my boy cry twice. And I was bawling too so not much comfort either time

Eve_Dublin

Saw my boyfriend cry a few months ago during a bit of a stupid disagreement we had. I unwittingly hit a nerve about something. He's a sensitive sap (I use that word in an endearing way) and I love him all the more for it.

I have no problems at all with men crying. If you need a cry, cry and as others said, it's very cathartic and it can really give you a kick up the arse when you realise you can't go on this way any more and you need to act. It's the same for men.

Like others here though, I don't feel comfortable around people who cry at the drop of a hat for no good reason. Sometimes you just have to suck it up for everyone's sake.

I cry every so often but I cry tears of happiness more than sadness, to be honest. That'd be a regular enough occurrence. Saw someone help someone blind onto the Metro the other day and my eyes welled up. If I see people being decent when they go about their usual business, I get all watery-eyed. Not really crying though, I suppose...

Biscuits16

I think its only ever acceptable for a man to cry at a funeral or while watching sport.

cursai

IvyTheTerrible

My boyfriend doesn't cry much but I have seen him cry several times over the 5+ years we have been together. Once was when his granny died and he couldn't get home for the funeral (she practically brought him up). All the other times have been when I was very upset about something..for example he cried when I found out my brother died.

I don't have a problem with men crying, I think it actually shows more strength than if he was holding it in all the time. It shows he is not afraid to show when he is upset.

moco

I'm not much of a crier myself, but seeing other people upset can start me off, especially a man. Seeing Shay Given crying over Gary Speed's death at that football match was heartbreaking.

Faith

I've never seen my boyfriend cry. I've seen him come very close, but never actually cry. I wish he actually would on occasion. I can't really think of any men I've seen crying as adults.

PK2008

moco wrote: »

I'm not much of a crier myself, but seeing other people upset can start me off, especially a man. Seeing Shay Given crying over Gary Speed's death at that football match was heartbreaking.

+1

I cant remember the last time I cried, must be years, but seeing Shay Given at that match and seeing Robbie Savage talking about Gary Speed on the BBC last week choked me up a bit...

CageWager

Links234 wrote: »

I've no idea why it's such a taboo for men to cry? seriously, emotional repression is bad.

I can't speak for any other men but I'm not a crier at all, never cried as an adult. I've been in situations (at funerals especially) where my heart was breaking, I was feeling all the emotions, I wasn't actively trying not to cry, I didn't have any control over how my grief manifested itself.

To say I'm emotionally repressed because I didnt physically shed a tear is completely wrong, I was just as upset as a women (or man) at the same funeral who was bawling her eyes out.

Everyone has different emotional reactions, its foolish to think that every man who is not crying/doesnt cry is emotionally stunted/actively trying not to cry for social reasons.

Arianna_26

Jane_LS_88 wrote: »

Yes because it shows they can actually feel emotion. Never understood the whole "boys don't cry" mentality.

So unless they cry there is no proof they have emotions?

Personally I don't mind a man crying if the situation warrants it and so long as he doesn't make a habit of it.