CBT??

LegacyUser

Hi everyone,

I see there's a few threads on CBT but I'm writing this not even sure if it's what I'm looking for or need so please bear with me.

Strange how i've got older (30) I've noticed how wound up I get about such little things - I project this "life's too short" attitude to friends and family and all is great, when in actual fact I go around, all day every day with a knot in my stomach, feeling worried about something, but not always knowing what it is that worries me. Yeah, I think about my family's health and whatnot but I worry about doing something wrong by someone's standards. my parents have always said I'm too hard on myself, that I have very high standards that I expect and if they're not met that I kick myself. Which is true, I do.
It's come to a head over the last couple of days where I was pretty much screamed at in work, and if I'm honest it's broken me. I started a new job 6 months ago and while my boss is happy with me, other people have just nitpicked at me, and it's wore me down to be honest (it doesn't constitute bullying by the way, it's just the way things are!)

I don't sleep great, again, waking up in the middle of the night worrying about something, be it work, family and to be honest, somethings going to give. I'm typing this in tears as I just don't know what to do and have no idea where to turn. I can't admit this to my parents, or to my friends. I know many people feel this way, but how do you handle it? I would always have been a "put up and shut up" kind of person, as in don't show weakness (but inevitably I do) but this isn't how life is supposed to be?!

Any ideas?! Would CBT help? I'd be afraid they'd laugh at me - bit of a vicious circle isn't it?!Thanks for reading!

Sundy

Yep sounds like CBT might help alright. Sound like you might have let it all get to you and make you a bit depressed too. Perfectly natural that long periods of excess stress can bring on depression.

Like alot of people it sounds like you are seeking perfection in everything you do. CBT could help you accept that your life is ok whatever way it falls into place. Forcing it wont really help anything.

A CBT councilor wont laugh at you at all. In fact give it a few sessions and you will be laughing at the way you used to be!

crinklestein

hi yeah you totally would benefit from cbt i attended one in dublin for bout 3 months totally changed my outlook on life and taught me how to not take responsibility for others actions or orry about their behaviour kind teaches you how to be more selfish but not in a bad way!:)