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Another College Thread

  • 22-11-2011 9:19pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So here's the story.

    I've settled into college with a steady, friendly and comfortable group of friends.

    I have another friend whom I haven't introduced to the group yet but he tells me he's finding it difficult to make friends/fit in etc. This other chap also doesn't like nightclubs.

    I hang out with him now and again but I was thinking that since I fit in with my group maybe it would be good to introduce him to some of my friends.

    So I was thinking is it a good idea to ask if he wants to come have lunch with me and my friends sometime in the college canteen.

    Reason this is personal is because I don't want to spend all my time with the group and not hang out with him at all because that wouldn't be fair on my part seen as how I've become friends with him too.


Comments

  • #2
    Firetrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,442 ✭✭✭Firetrap


    Yeah, I think you should invite him. What harm can it do? If he gets on with these people, it will be a nice bonus for them. If he doesn't, will he be any worse off than he is now? It's not all that weird for people to have different groups or individual friends who never get to meet at all.

    Unless you and your friends are some sort of horrible watertight clique, it shouldn't be an issue if someone different joins ye, surely?


  • #3
    Louthdrog
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 116 ✭✭Louthdrog


    The thing about first year in college, is that everyone is in the same boat. This makes people far more willing to talk to people and get to know each other. 100% bring him along to the canteen. I dont know how many people iv become friends with in college because another friend brought them along to a canteen or social event.
    Encourage him to get involved with clubs and socs aswell. Really they are the best social places to meet like minded people. Most colleges have a wide array and would only love more members. Great way to meet people without going 100 miles near a nightclub.


  • #4
    echosound
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 773 ✭✭✭echosound


    Definitely do it. Sure isn't that how most people end up chatting at college - join in on a chat in the canteen, oftentimes only knowing the one person in the group? That's how people tend to widen their circle of friends, whether in college or not - someone goes along with a friend and ends up chatting to other people who are in the wider group.

    Good on you for thinking to include him, and as for the nightclub thing (i.e. that he's not a fan) sure that won't stop him being able to be friendly and chatty to people while in college, even if he's not a fan of socialising outside of college in a pub/nightclub. Many aren't bothered about going on nights out.


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