I am 23 and have never kissed a woman...how can I solve this situation

Midgard

Well I have tried approaching women for the last few years and got nothing but rejections...the thing is that I have never had sex, kissed or been on a date with a woman...I am 23 right now and to be honest I don't know what to do any more...I have approached at least 100 women so far....I don't know if it's my appearance that is driving women away...maybe my personality....but it's really frustrating...

What I can say about me is that I am very calm by nature...I am honest and open with other people....I know how to interact with others...I am intelligent...I can talk about several subjects...I am somewhat shy...actually I am more on the quiet side that on the shy side...but I socialize pretty well.. I never did drugs...and I rarely have anything to drink( maybe a negative aspect in this case)...I treat everyone with respect as long as they respect me...I know what I want in life...and I am very open minded....


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I know I am not great looking...but I don't think of myself as ugly either...


Are women able to tell if you are inexperienced or not? If yes...does it affect their judgment as to whether they accept or reject you?


I have always been myself on the approaches.... something like " Hey there..how is your day/night going...my name is......what is yours?....never used pick up lines....should I be more aggressive than that?

Lamposts

If you live in Dublin then it's very hard to score bro. I should be your dating coach! INSTANT RESULTS IN LESS THAN A WEEK!

LegacyUser

I know it might seem a bit odd; but why not actually tell a girl you have never kissed someone before, in this scenario, they will either:
a) think you're joking and have a laugh with you; which could lead to a kiss revolving around the initial 'I've never been kissed line'
b) give you you're first kiss
c) stare blankly at you and walk off bemused, which it seems you're used to and have no problem with approaching women, so try it again!

At the end of the day, they might even feel a bit more special due to this. Everyone's happy!

Taltos

OP - please do not post any photos of yourself on this forum.
Thank you to all the eagle-eyed boardsies out there.


Lamposts - please review our charter - we expect all posts to be civil and constructive. Offers to meet up or to contact the OP are not permitted on this forum.

Taltos

Distorted

OP, if you have approached 100 women so far to kiss them and they have all refused, its likely there is something in your approach that is putting them off. It would probably be helpful to you to explain this approach - my apologies if I have misunderstood and you didn't mean you had approached 100 women to kiss you.

I doubt its anything to do with physical attractiveness or lack of, as long as you are reasonably well presented (ie not dirty or very scruffy). There are plenty of really quite unattractive people out there who have partners, and some people even prefer to stay away from the really attractive, because they consider them too hard work.

Midgard

Distorted wrote: »

OP, if you have approached 100 women so far to kiss them and they have all refused, its likely there is something in your approach that is putting them off. It would probably be helpful to you to explain this approach - my apologies if I have misunderstood and you didn't mean you had approached 100 women to kiss you.

I doubt its anything to do with physical attractiveness or lack of, as long as you are reasonably well presented (ie not dirty or very scruffy). There are plenty of really quite unattractive people out there who have partners, and some people even prefer to stay away from the really attractive, because they consider them too hard work.

Well..I approached those women because I was interested in them...but not only for kissing...


I don't follow any specif rule for my approaches..it's usually a " hey how are u" thing you know...I start with a conversation and later on I find if that person would be interested in something more than a friendship...I was never actually able to get away with a number..and I have been rejected quite a lot...and I see that all the people I know have no trouble in finding someone to be with...so i was just wondering since I don't consider my personality to be an issue...I actually get a lot of credit for it.....would it be my appearance the reason behind all my failures..

Firetrap

For what it's worth, I saw the pictures posted before the thread was modded and the bloke in them looks perfectly normal. I can only think that there is something wrong with the way you're going about things. Perhaps you are coming across as desperate at this stage? As a woman I can assure you that we can smell desperation a mile off. Perhaps try not to view women you meet as potential girlfriends but as friends. See what happens from there. Try not to be overly intense if you are doing that too.

A0

Midgard wrote: »

Well I have tried approaching women for the last few years and got nothing but rejections...the thing is that I have never had sex, kissed or been on a date with a woman...I am 23 right now and to be honest I don't know what to do any more...I have approached at least 100 women so far....I don't know if it's my appearance that is driving women away...maybe my personality....but it's really frustrating...

What I can say about me is that I am very calm by nature...I am honest and open with other people....I know how to interact with others...I am intelligent...I can talk about several subjects...I am somewhat shy...actually I am more on the quiet side that on the shy side...but I socialize pretty well.. I never did drugs...and I rarely have anything to drink( maybe a negative aspect in this case)...I treat everyone with respect as long as they respect me...I know what I want in life...and I am very open minded....


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I know I am not great looking...but I don't think of myself as ugly either...


Are women able to tell if you are inexperienced or not? If yes...does it affect their judgment as to whether they accept or reject you?


I have always been myself on the approaches.... something like " Hey there..how is your day/night going...my name is......what is yours?....never used pick up lines....should I be more aggressive than that?

Be yourself, eye contact and... http://www.wikihow.com/French-Kiss
Be confident, keep avoiding drugs and drinking too much that's the way to go, you'll defo find someone... And don't worry there's no age for a first kiss!

Skuxx

Do you mind me asking OP, where have you approached these 100 women? Was it all in night clubs?
I know its been said here countless times before, but approaching women in clubs and pubs isn't the way to go! Women on a night out know that every fella in the place would happily ride them and they have their guard up and are able to be picky, choosy and incredibly bitchy! Especially if they are out with a group of girls!!
Have you tried joining any groups, clubs or evening classes? These are a lot less pressurised enviornments to meet women, become friends and then maybe a date will follow from there!! Its a far more natural surrounding and it won't seem as obvious what your after!!

Midgard

alan1990 wrote: »

Do you mind me asking OP, where have you approached these 100 women? Was it all in night clubs?
I know its been said here countless times before, but approaching women in clubs and pubs isn't the way to go! Women on a night out know that every fella in the place would happily ride them and they have their guard up and are able to be picky, choosy and incredibly bitchy! Especially if they are out with a group of girls!!
Have you tried joining any groups, clubs or evening classes? These are a lot less pressurised enviornments to meet women, become friends and then maybe a date will follow from there!! Its a far more natural surrounding and it won't seem as obvious what your after!!

No I hate approaching at bars or clubs....I did it like 10 or 15 times...most of my approaches were with women at school, parties, local stores, a friend of a friend...you know..and if there's one thing I learned from women is that if you ever want something romantic with them....do not be friends......believe me I learned the hard way...