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Can they love you even though breaking up?

  • 17-11-2011 5:04pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi Guys,
    I posted here recently. My boyfriend broke up with me.
    I'm just wondering, can a person still love you etc but have to break up with you?
    His reason wasn't great and I knew we were falling in love. He ended it out of the blue with a crap reason.
    But I'm just wondering, is it really true - if a guy loves you, he will make it work?
    Or can he still love me and break up. He did say "there was me and then the relationship"

    Should I just move on ? Or hold out hope. It has been 3 weeks since we spoke and hes been avoiding me.


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  • #2
    Bodhidharma
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 942 ✭✭✭Bodhidharma


    Yes its possible. Sometimes a break up is due to circumstances. From your post it doesn't sound like that. If he loves you and broke up with you for a reason he would say it. Three weeks without contact suggests he doesn't.

    As it is, I would move on if I were you.


  • #3
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    Bodhidharma wrote: »
    Yes its possible. Sometimes a break up is due to circumstances. From your post it doesn't sound like that. If he loves you and broke up with you for a reason he would say it. Three weeks without contact suggests he doesn't.

    As it is, I would move on if I were you.

    Absolutely....

    why would he have to break up with you?


  • #4
    Neyite
    Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,948 Mod ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    After a few break ups you soon realise that the reason is always irrelevant and usually a lie. If you feel it was a lame one it was probably because he was softening the blow for you, and the truth would be far more hurtful.

    In an ideal world we would be able to say to someone "look, you are nice and all, but there is someone else who I really, really fancy and want to shag instead" and the other person would be happy for us and wish us well with said shagging of others. Or we could say without fear of hurting someone "I thought you were really interesting at first, but now I think you are boring and a bit annoying, and your laugh grates on my ears" Or whatever.

    But because we know that this would hurt someone who cares deeply for us and we understand that rejection is painful enough we cite career pressures or not being ready for a relationship or family commitments as the reason for the breakup. In truth, the person who is dumping you just feels that the two of you being together just is not as great as you think it is.

    Its been three weeks - sorry if this hurts but if he had any thoughts about you romantically, he would not be avoiding you all this time. Time to move on...


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