What would you do in this situation?

LegacyUser

So met a girl out lastweek, exchanged numbers and ive asked her out for a drink and we're meeting up friday, In the mean time ive discovered she has a kid which is a bit of a no no for me, so what should i do? Just go out for a few drinks with her and have the craic?

LegacyUser

Try this, honesty!

Tell her she is a nice girl and all but you do not like dating women with kids.. Her response should then give you a clear action as to what to do!

LegacyUser

If i do that i know i'm going to get not such a nice response and it will make her feel horrible so I'm thinking i'm just going to go along, She's very attractive and all that

Ickle Magoo

It's up to you really - as I see it you have three choices. You can keep shtum knowing you are just out to have a bit of fun, you can end things now because she told you she has a kid and you aren't interested in taking things any further, or you can keep shtum for now and play it by ear.

You've only just exchanged numbers, it might be a terrible date - or it could be a great date and she has no interest in finding a baby-daddy. Seems a bit premature to rule out any further contact based on that one fact this early in the game...

Please Kill Me

Stupid question - but so what??? Four years ago I met a 23 year old hottie with a child (2yrs old) and it was a bit of an adjustment getting used to someone else's kid being around, but we're still together and the little guy calls me Dad. If I was narrow-minded/shallow/stubborn I would have missed out on a fantastic relationship with an amazing girl! You could be missing out too! Don't throw away the chance to be happy.

gmac102

dont waste her time, im a single mother and if someone didnt want to date me because i am a mother, id think well he wasnt for me anyway...next !!

going on a date with her just because u dont want to tell her, her child is a issue is rather cowardly on ur part and stringing her along... be a man be honest, women appreciate that more than anything

I am a friend

Yeah just pull out of it but do it tonight rather than last minute.

Firetrap

If you feel as strongly as this, I think you should cancel now. Don't get her hopes up for Friday. After meeting her again, it will only make things more awkward.

Payton

How do you know she wont like you when she see's you again? What have you got too lose, go for it and see what happens. Its only a drink and a chat. Its not marriage or a life changing situation. I think you have got both sides with posts by Please Kill Me and gmac102.

foxyboxer

I would agree with your principles OP. And I would take the honesty route as suggested.

LegacyUser

Thanks everyone, well I pulled the plug on it but I took the cowardly way out and just told her something came up and I couldn't make it Friday, there was no point in meeting her and wasting her time if I know that I just bring myself to go out with some with a child that is not mine

Taltos

Closing as OP has resolved their issue.

Taltos