Time to leave??

Ruth1985

I'm so confused right now. My boyfriend and I are In our late 20's and have been living together for over two years. We're together almost 6yrs which included a break up for a few months! (FYI absolutely nowhere near engagement marriage building etc he says we can't afford it)
Thing is I feel so unhappy at the min with him, us, our relationship, my job, life in general!
He came home to take over the family business a few yrs ago and he's happy out. But this involves long hours so we seem to pass each other and when we are together he's asleep! He does no house work and only when we have a row and I point out all the flaws are they corrected ie the cleaning and that fact we go nowhere and then he changes. But then everything goes back to how it was before! We each pay half the rent actually everything is halved don't get me wrong I like to pay my way but he's know I'm on really bad wages and I'm struggling everyday to the point where I have to go home and ask my family for money!
Sex isn't very often more so down to me! Simply because I resent him so much I can't be intimate with him!
Last week I was looking through the history on my laptop and found he'd been viewing porn a good bit not really an issue for me but then I found a google search of his ex girlfriends name and then clicked her Facebook page (he's not on Facebook) so looked at her picture and then went straight to porn site! I confronted him and he just apologised said there was nothing in it!! I told him I was moving home and he's begging me to stay went as far as to say he'd cover the rent! I just feel it's too late he should of offered that months ago when he seen me struggling!! I just keeping asking myself what am I still doing here I need advise!!!

Rosy Posy

Ruth1985 wrote: »

We're together almost 6yrs which included a break up for a few months! (FYI absolutely nowhere near engagement marriage building etc

Ruth1985 wrote: »

I feel so unhappy

Ruth1985 wrote: »

I resent him so much I can't be intimate with him!

Ruth1985 wrote: »

I just keeping asking myself what am I still doing here

It sounds like you're answering your own question here...you're unhappy, you don't enjoy his company and you can't see a future together. What's more telling is what you don't say- you don't say you still love him or even like him very much. It seems that you're only staying with him out of habit. If the spark's gone after six years what's it going to be like after twenty or forty. Don't be one of those women who wakes up at fifty and realises that they've wasted their lives on someone they don't really love. You deserve better.

homebird2011

Ruth1985 wrote: »

He came home to take over the family business a few yrs ago and he's happy out. But this involves long hours so we seem to pass each other and when we are together he's asleep!

this happened with a friend of mine- she was tired of coming second or even third on his list of priorities and feeling unloved, after several months of separation her partner realised he had been taking her for granted and asked her to reconsider getting back together. She refused until he could prove he had changed. And now they have begun to date again and get to know each other all over again, which has added an extra element of romance to their relationship.
I think you should move home, save money and become financially steady without having to rely on him- will lessen your resentment of him. If he wants to stay together as a couple make it clear that you would like a little space to think about how to proceed and so should he-if your not happy he prob isnt. So you both know what you want and if its each other then state what you need up front like more time together or maybe take a page from my friends and start dating again. you may find that you are a diff people then you think