Scared of ageing

LegacyUser

I'm not entirely happy with how the first 18 years if my life turned out, I feel like I've missed so much the average teenager has done. I regret immensely not having the chance to live these years again. I regret not having the chance to rectify things that put me on a disaster course for later.

And now, no better for life, I'm looking ahead to the future. I'm looking forward to making my 20's all my teens weren't. But I'm also afraid, afraid of failure and afraid of the inevitable ageing process. One could say I've lost my best years. I'm so afraid of the future, I'm afraid that opportunities may never come my way, I'm afraid that the trend isn't going to rise anytime soon.

And then there's the inevitable end. I know I'm too young to be thinking of that but really to me it serves as further motivation to enjoy life and do all I want to do. I hope, and hope is all I feel I can do, that I make such a life for myself that I can be happy in the future.

But it always feels like the clock is against me.

Please Kill Me

You can't focus on all the negatives!! You'll drive yourself nuts!! Believe me, I was in a similar situation, I had no life in my teens, my Dad beat me and I was bullied in school. I married the first girl I went out with and what a f**king disaster THAT was!! I stuck with it for 16 years thinking I wouldn't do any better anyway. Guess what? Life goes on! Life is what you make it!! I turned 40 this year and my life just started! I have a great girlfriend and amazing kids. OK, I'm unemployed, but so is half the country!! I just make the most of what I have, glad to be shut of the nightmare that was the first 35 years of my life. Chin up - it's never too late!!

hellyeah

people say they best years of your life are when your at school and in your teens. WELL I THINK THATS COMPLETE NONSENSE.
in school i was hopelessly shy and nervous. Had no idea what i wanted to do and left school at 17 angry at the world, pis*ed off and depressed.
Bounced around dead end jobs through most of my twentys ( still angry)
Im now 35 year old single male, who may have a job today but not tomorrow and i dont care. What i am trying to say her op, is that life gets easier with age. You become more self-accepting, worry alot less and start to appreciate the simple things.
Time waits for no man, but i believe i look and feel better now at 35 than i did at 18, with a much more positive outlook.
.:)
j.

Please Kill Me

hellyeah wrote: »

... but i believe i look and feel better now at 35 than i did at 18...

Ditto!! :cool:

LegacyUser

OP, you should look up a phenomenon called the "quarter-life crisis". It's a lot more common than you'd think. As is so often the case, being assertive and saying f**k you to doubt is the only cure.

RyanMurton

Age is only a number! :-)

Don't worry.