online affair

LegacyUser

Going silent for this post a I am a regular poster under a different name.

Heres the thing. Married, kids etc etc., love my wife, do not want to hurt her. However, I've found myself in an online relationship, we are both married, we both realise that our marriages come first. This woman fulfills me sexually in ways my wife won't. so while I love my wife, don't want to hurt her.

Am I mad?

gmac102

Silent Anonymous wrote: »

Going silent for this post a I am a regular poster under a different name.

Heres the thing. Married, kids etc etc., love my wife, do not want to hurt her. However, I've found myself in an online relationship, we are both married, we both realise that our marriages come first. This woman fulfills me sexually in ways my wife won't. so while I love my wife, don't want to hurt her.

Am I mad?

yes im sure its not worth losing your family over or is it?

tallaghtmick

Silent Anonymous wrote: »

Going silent for this post a I am a regular poster under a different name.

Heres the thing. Married, kids etc etc., love my wife, do not want to hurt her. However, I've found myself in an online relationship, we are both married, we both realise that our marriages come first. This woman fulfills me sexually in ways my wife won't. so while I love my wife, don't want to hurt her.

Am I mad?

Online? you may have to explain that one

Anyway it seems like infatuation to me.

Firetrap

At a guess, I reckon the OP's talking about saucy sessions on webcam and x-rated chat.

You'd want to be very careful here. While you've not physically cheated on your wife, you are emotionally cheating. Which is almost the same thing. If either of your spouses found out, I'm not sure how well they'd differentiate this from a full blown affair.

Really, the wisest thing to do here is to finish up this affair and work on your own marriage.

tallaghtmick

Firetrap wrote: »

At a guess, I reckon the OP's talking about saucy sessions on webcam and x-rated chat.

You'd want to be very careful here. While you've not physically cheated on your wife, you are emotionally cheating. Which is almost the same thing. If either of your spouses found out, I'm not sure how well they'd differentiate this from a full blown affair.

Really, the wisest thing to do here is to finish up this affair and work on your own marriage.

So visual sex is better than physical sex for the OP,I reckon the OPs sex life in his marriage is gone or at least faded.OP try talk to your wife about this because if its visual you are on the web you dont need another woman.

I am a friend

Have you physically met her?

suckmyloli

Put your self in her shoes. If you weren't having this relationship with another woman and your wife was sneaking around with another man whether physically or not and telling strangers that this man fulfilled her sexually in a way you could only dream of, how would you feel?

If you care about her at all you will come clean, beg her for forgiveness and end this and never do anything so dishonest again.

Zen65

Silent Anonymous wrote: »

Am I mad?

Probably not mad, but certainly unwise. This online relationship (assuming it is only online) is nothing more than a shared figment of both your imaginations, it has no prospect of offering either of you a long-term happiness. In reality it is simply a customised porn site.

I think you could better spend your time by investing in your real relationship with your wife; get to the bottom of why the relationship is not physically satisfying you. Seek out new things together - new hobbies, new wardrobes, new friends, new sexual experiences together (and only with each other!!). It sounds as though what you are getting from this online exchange is something akin to a role-play fantasy, which would be far more rewarding if you could enjoy such an experience with your wife in the flesh. Talk with your wife and let her know that you want the relationship to be more satisfying, but be clear that changes can only come about if both of you make changes.

This online relationship needs to be consigned to the trashbox. Delete all records of it (skype address, website, e-mail, whatever) so that you are not tempted to re-kindle it at a later stage. You cannot really commit to making your real-life relationship a priority if you are still giving time to this online fantasy.

Be at peace,

Z

estar

You knew the answer you would get by posting on here perhaps some part of you wants out. My advice is read the divorce postings in here and then delete all trace and focus your energies on real life. Online life doesn't exist in the real world. Start investing some time in your sex life again rather than outsourcing it. If your wife isn't into this idea then relate to her how important it is to you that your sex life continue and at least give her a choice.