End of the road??

uptownx

I started dating my bf back in 09 at first we got on great even though technically we were in a relationship, he had a problem with making it official and numerous times said maybe its for the best if we didn't go furthur and he would change his mind again so it was 5 months before it was actually official!

But about 2 months before that he went on a lads trip to dundee when he came back he said his 2mates copped off with 2 birds over and what was my opinion? As I don't care about his friends antics I wasn't bothered until a photo surfaced of him and this girl looking very cosy long story short she kissed him he denied it for months and I.knew he was lying it took him months to come clean only because I nagged. Really I should have seen the warning signs but no I didn't.

I became pregnant we moved in together got on great. Then he got a new job and would come home insulting me saying stuff like "oh i work with a girl your age and she earns this much you never will".

Then we started doing less and less together and my insecurities about the dundee girl would come up causing rows, he even pushed me a few times while we argued and breaks things he acts like a child who has a tantrum for not getting there own way. We still live together and he critisises my weight in a meanish way but says then his concerned about it. He never takes me out & he used to be affectionate but that's gone out the window. He says his too busy to txt or call me while his at work he never wants to do anything as a family but will make time for work parties etc.

In my heart I know I should leave but something is stopping me and I don't know what to do its getting quiet depressing..

I am a friend

Op am sorry but I couldn't make head or tail of your post. Would you mnd putting it into sentences & paragraphs. Thanks

Firetrap

What I'm gathering from your paragraph (which was very hard to read and understand, if you don't mind me saying) is that you're in something that sounds suspiciously like an abusive relationship.

He certainly doesn't sound like he loves or respects you. He was very slow to commit to you and indeed found the time to kiss (at the very least) a girl in Dundee. They are only minor issues though.

What jumped out of the page at me was the other stuff you posted further on. You mentioned warning signs you ignored. What warning signs were those? Is it only because you got pregnant that you moved in together? What is worrying is that you say he has pushed you, he breaks things, he says very nasty personal things to you and generally behaves in an unpleasant manner.

Do you have any family or friends you can turn to for help? Or, failing that, have you thought about picking up the phone and talking to someone from a women's refuge?

The home you are currently giving your child is no place to bring it up. The least he/she deserves is a stable environment. What you've described is by no means stable and it is likely that as time goes on, he will treat you more shabbily. Those pushes could turn into punches. Those nasty comments he makes could become nastier. You and your child do not deserve that.

baggypants

Get out of there for your own safety and the safety of your child the fact that you mentioned him pushing you is enough to set the alarm bells ringing ,whats next??
You also mention him insulting you when he gets home from work , do you really need someone like that in your life ?? its clear he has zero respect for you , i mean if i was coming home to my GF and child i would be happy to see them not throw insults and the pushing is a major no no
zero excuses for it ,i hope all works out for you and your child OP you deserve so much better