I need to know if i was used or not or where this is going

HollyPerry

I have been texting a guy I know through a mate for the past 2months. We met up two weeks ago and got on good so Then we arranged to meet up last Sunday and he came around to my apartment so we watched a movie cuddled and had sex. I know im an idiot for doing it but its done now. I text him Tuesday just hey how are u and he said hey I was wondering when I would hear from ya and how he was goin away for a few days with work (which i know he isnt lying) and I text him back just general conversation and asked when was he back but he never replied. He was never good for texting anyway sometimes i wouldnt hear from him in a week so thats why i dont know if hes busy or lost interest. I am going out of my mind as i like him but dont know whats going on. I dont know whether i should try texting him again and see or leave it. what should i say to him in a text since he didnt reply? I just need to know from him if this is it or whats going on so what should i say? He's 28 I'm 21. please help

Beruthiel

HollyPerry wrote: »

I just need to know from him if this is it

This is it.
If he was in any way interested, he would be calling and setting up your next date.
If you are not hearing from him, clearly he is just not interested.
Chalk it down to experience and move on.


PS
Paragraphs and sentence structure make it much easier to read text on the net.

Fittle

He's not going away with work for a few days.

He got what he wanted and will possibly contact you again in a while (when it suits him) to arrange another night on your couch.

If that's all you want from him, fine.

If you want anything more, save yourself some weeks of heartache, Delete his number and move on.

Miss Fluff

The advice still stands from the identical thread you started on this yesterday. He's not interested. Don't demean yourself by texting him, if he was interested you'd know about it.

Beruthiel

BTW
I forgot to add Holly, you weren't used. You consented.

Liam Byrne

So you reckon you're "an idiot" for having sex ? Why ?

Because he's the guy and you're a girl ?

Maybe he reckons that the "don't go out with people who have sex on a first (?) date" crap applies both ways, so thinks you're happy it was a ONS ?

Maybe he's a man who thinks the "he's a guy - if he was interested you'd know by now" mentality has been changed and reversed by a little thing called equality ?

If you're interested, ask him if he wants to meet up. If you're happy that it's a DVD & sex arrangement, meet up. If there's a chance of something deeper and you want that, meet up.

If not, don't.

P.S. If you chose to have sex you weren't used.

C-J

I'm sorry but he doesn't sound that keen. If a guy is into you he will woo you, be looking forward to getting texts etc. He seems to have gotten what he wanted. Can you please tell me the source of your anti aging elixir as ye are both a year younger than ye were yesterday!

Liam Byrne

C-J wrote: »

I'm sorry but he doesn't sound that keen. If a guy is into you he will woo you, be looking forward to getting texts etc. He seems to have gotten what he wanted.

OK - I don't want to drag this off-topic, but so did she.

You can't tell from there "what he wanted". He also isn't a mind-reader.

If a girl is into a guy, what's to stop her "wooing" him or looking forward to getting texts, etc ?

Did the whole equality lark bypass the mating game ?

C-J

Oh for gods sake i'm simply pointing out that REGARDLESS of who texts first etc, at the early stages of a relationship both parties should equally be getting butterflies etc and he certainly isn't! If he was interested in her he'd reply to her messages with the slightest enthusiasm especially in the honeymoon stage! Read her other post!