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facebook n f buddies

gmac102 · 2011-11-09 17:19:56

I recently became frnds with my f buddy on fb, I dont want him there.... It makes me feel very very uncomfortable. I dont want him knowing anything about my life etc etc Would it be rude if I removed him? Also I dont want to know anything about his.

09-11-2011 5:19pm

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I recently became frnds with my f buddy on fb, I dont want him there.... It makes me feel very very uncomfortable. I dont want him knowing anything about my life etc etc

Would it be rude if I removed him?

Also I dont want to know anything about his.

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#2 09-11-2011 5:24pm

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gmac102 wrote: »

I recently became frnds with my f buddy on fb, I dont want him there.... It makes me feel very very uncomfortable. I dont want him knowing anything about my life etc etc

Would it be rude if I removed him?

I don't think the finer points or nuances of etiquette and propriety really apply to a FWB situation.

Just delete him, I wouldn't agonize over it tbh...

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#3 09-11-2011 5:25pm

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I just wouldnt want to insult him hence the oh **** can I

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#4 09-11-2011 6:00pm

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Just reduce what he can see on your page and remove him from your newsfeed, facebook friends in name alone!

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#5 09-11-2011 7:06pm

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gmac102 wrote: »

I recently became frnds with my f buddy on fb, I dont want him there.... It makes me feel very very uncomfortable. I dont want him knowing anything about my life etc etc

Would it be rude if I removed him?

Also I dont want to know anything about his.

Remove him. Its very strange that you would have sex with him, yet you dont want him to know anything about you. Isn't sex as intimate as you can be?

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#6 09-11-2011 7:10pm

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Bodhidharma wrote: »

Remove him. Its very strange that you would have sex with him, yet you dont want him to know anything about you. Isn't sex as intimate as you can be?

yes but its purely just sex. I dont want to be intimate with him, or him knowing much about me.

Strange I know thanks for the advice

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#7 10-11-2011 9:28am

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Just change your privacy settings to limit what he can see of you!

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#8 10-11-2011 6:11pm

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delete + block him - you'll vanish off fb in his eyes and if you ever run into him and it comes up you can just pretend you got rid of it.

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#9 10-11-2011 8:42pm

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gmac102 wrote: »

I recently became frnds with my f buddy on fb, I dont want him there.... It makes me feel very very uncomfortable. I dont want him knowing anything about my life etc etc

Would it be rude if I removed him?

Also I dont want to know anything about his.

Find a boyfriend and then no more fb & fb problems...

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#10 10-11-2011 10:22pm

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gmac102 wrote: »

I dont want to be intimate with him, or him knowing much about me.

This is probably the strangest thing I have ever read. You are intimate with him and tbh it doesn't get much more intimate than being a f-buddy for someone..

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#11 10-11-2011 10:30pm

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I am a friend wrote: »

This is probably the strangest thing I have ever read. You are intimate with him and tbh it doesn't get much more intimate than being a f-buddy for someone..

Being friends on Facebook and being all pally would just cross the boundaries tbh. Having a FB is intimacy on the most superficial level; usually defined by having consensual and enjoyable no-strings sex with a person whom you have great chemistry with but whom you don't want a relationship with/like in that way.

I can totally see why the OP doesn't want them as a "friend", on Facebook or otherwise...

If you don't give a fiddlers about this F8ck Buddy then just delete them and next time you see them mention it to them that you were uncomfortable with it. If you're FBs in the true sense of the word then he won't give a sh1t or take umbridge in any way.

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#12 10-11-2011 10:48pm

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Oh I know what she means, I just can't get my head around a situation like that but sure there ya go - different strokes etc

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#13 11-11-2011 12:50am

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A0 wrote: »

Find a boyfriend and then no more fb & fb problems...

The OP has asked for advice on a specific issue - please ensure your advice is relevant to that issue.

If you haven't already done so, please take the time to read the [URL=" http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056181484"]forum rules[/URL] in the charter.

Many thanks.

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#14 11-11-2011 2:11am

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LostGirly wrote: »

Just change your privacy settings to limit what he can see of you!

I had to laugh at the treble-meaning in that.

OP - FB's can be fun, but I certainly wouldn't be intimate with someone that I wasn't prepared to let see my life....maybe that's just me.

Do you have anything specific that you don't want him to see ? Other flirts, dates, a boyfriend or husband ?

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#15 11-11-2011 11:30am

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Miss Fluff wrote: »

Being friends on Facebook and being all pally would just cross the boundaries tbh. Having a FB is intimacy on the most superficial level; usually defined by having consensual and enjoyable no-strings sex with a person whom you have great chemistry with but whom you don't want a relationship with/like in that way.

I can totally see why the OP doesn't want them as a "friend", on Facebook or otherwise...

If you don't give a fiddlers about this F8ck Buddy then just delete them and next time you see them mention it to them that you were uncomfortable with it. If you're FBs in the true sense of the word then he won't give a sh1t or take umbridge in any way.

Miss Fluff nail on the head, thank you!

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#16 11-11-2011 11:34am

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Liam Byrne wrote: »

I had to laugh at the treble-meaning in that.

OP - FB's can be fun, but I certainly wouldn't be intimate with someone that I wasn't prepared to let see my life....maybe that's just me.

Do you have anything specific that you don't want him to see ? Other flirts, dates, a boyfriend or husband ?

Prob my kids pictures, or anything like that... in my head hes just sex, thats it albeit hes a lovely guy, I can have sex with him but dont want to share anything personal because maybe I must be private or strange... Ill give it some thought

Thanks for the replies guys!

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#17 11-11-2011 3:25pm

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You have kids? Oh right, sorry, from what was written I thought you were a lot younger (maybe you are young and just have young kids I dont know). Anyway as someone mentioned, delete him and carry on, I would doubt he cares, and if he does, maybe its too complicated as feelings are involved.

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#18 13-11-2011 12:50am

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why did you accept his add in the first place ?????

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#19 13-11-2011 10:46am

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Mc Kenzie wrote: »

why did you accept his add in the first place ?????

alcohol

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#20 13-11-2011 2:39pm

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Just delete him! No issue. I regularly do a "clean up" and delete people that I don't actually have Facebook interaction with.

Sometimes I get a friend request again, most times nobody notices!

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#21 13-11-2011 3:04pm

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I would agree with the posters who say delete and forget about it. Or you could customise your privacy settings so that he can see nothing.

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