Want to go but then don't

LegacyUser

I always like the idea of going to events but then when it comes to the day I go off the idea, then when it's over I regret not going... is there anyone else like this and why am I like this?

Sarn

You need to force yourself to go to more of these events. I know it's easy to bow out at the last minute and take the easy option, stay in and watch tv, especially if you feel a bit tired or are stressed over something. As you pointed out, you regret it afterwards. Just remember all the good nights out that you've had previously and go and have a few more.

shannie

My Mum is like this and it really annoys me because she's always looking forward to going out and then when the day comes she's has if's and but's and then just does not go out..
I think its because she does not go out alot and then when she gets the chance she dose not see the point.
I think you should just go out because if you dont you will regret it like and who know's you might enjoy it, if you dont, go home but at least you tired

csi vegas

kathyam wrote: »

I always like the idea of going to events but then when it comes to the day I go off the idea, then when it's over I regret not going... is there anyone else like this and why am I like this?

I was (and still am to a point) like this too. There can be so many reasons for it. I had this friend who only ever wanted to go to pubs & clubs, would never call to my place (only before pub/club), would never meet for coffee etc. Her only aim was to meet a man and I was only useful to her as an accompaniment so for that reason I went off the idea of going out with her (and she was awful quiet/boring/standoffish company if a guy didn't approach her).
When we made plans for other nights out (always to 'see' if it could be ok for once & for my own sake of getting out), then start to regret it on the days leading up, talk myself out of it, mentally fret over 'excuses' to cancel with her etc.

But it came down to two things (both connected as well):
1: The fact I knew she was not a genuine friend and
2: The money it cost me to do the stuff with her that SHE wanted to do (never doing anything I wanted).
Needless to say she now has a man (who she met on a night out with her sister) and I haven't heard from her since. Not one bit surprised either.
Those are my reasons anyway.

Also the weather can really p*ss me off at times - grey skies, wind, rain, the cold, the dark, without realising it, not to mention the havoc it causes with outfits and the thoughts of making the effort for what can be so little reward (such as a stroppy/bitchy friend)...
Men have it so easy.

A typical night out I think you're missing NOTHING.
An event (like a concert) is usually worth the effort though.

unreggd

Force yourself to go

If you just never go, you'll ALWAYS have the regret, and NEVER have the fun times

LegacyUser

I used to be so like that OP, lots of little things, alot of them college related, such as missing class parties in first year and other events(resulting me having no real social interaction with my fellow students), not following through with meeting potential future employers(given a number too ring a lad who is in charge of a firm I'd simply love to work in) just deciding against meeting him on the day. Completely backtracking on meeting a girl I used to work with for lunch, in her own house, whom I really liked(was about 10 minutes from her house when I text her saying I couldnt make it and went to the gym instead.. idiot!)

I suppose they aren't all necessarily events OP, but basically, I really regret not following through with my plans, really depresses me when I think about it sometimes.
But now I just bite the bullet, and if theres one thing I really get a rush out of, is entering a new environment and just feeling immediately comfortable and thrilled with myself for being there.