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feeling empty, uncertain

  • 07-11-2011 11:22am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm 31, nearly 32 (I know that's not old but hear me out!). I recently broke up with my boyfriend of over 5 years because he still sat around all day with his friends playing Playstation and didn't earn enough money for us to live together or make a future after so long. It was a tough decision but I felt like I needed to move on. I've been unemployed for nearly a year, even though I have good qualifications, experience and education. I must have applied for hundreds of jobs, every day spent sending out applications, calling into companies and getting to know people etc but only nothing. Had a couple of terrible interviews but got nothing, and because the interviews were such a disaster due to my nervousness (I was nearly unable to speak!), I am ten times more afraid of interviews now. I know I'm not alone in this, but its still hard. I don't want to sound like I'm moaning on when people have bigger problems but I'm just really down at the moment. I'm back living at home and of course I am grateful for this and understand every day how lucky I am but I still feel like a bit of a loser. I've done all the things like courses about interview techniques, bought books about self-confidence etc and I try not to let my negativity affect my perseverance in looking for work, but I'm increasingly angry and bitter that I am unable to find anything after so long studying and working. The biggest thing is that I feel I have a few years left if I want to have children and I'm now single again. I feel guilty that maybe I could have made it work with my partner. I thought about moving away but my parents are quite old and I feel I want to be around for them over the next few years. Its all a mess! Its like everywhere are reminders that you're getting on a bit...like they might as well put giant clocks on the wall! What is a person supposed to do? I do work out and play sports and that helps a lot. I have tried taking up new hobbies but its actually expensive. I wanted to do volunteering but when I don't know what part of the country I might get a job in its impossible to commit to anything. Sorry for the long message.
    I guess I want to know if anyone out there is having any similar problems...


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  • #2
    gugleguy
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    practice in front of a mirror maybe on your own?
    - sorry for your troubles OP :(
    If it's anyway sympathetic, I am nearly 40 - broke up with gf 2 years ago.


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