Should she tell ?

LegacyUser

Hi,

Was out with two friends last sunday night. One of my friends got together with this guy (just kissing i know cos she came home with us). I didn't really see him but my friend (the non-scoring one) said he was very nice looking.

The next day he texted her to meet up and they are supposed to meet up on sunday coming Apparently he's not available during the week. My scoring friend is mad about this guy.

The Problem:

My other friend works in a chemist and while she was behind the counter (in the dispensing area) this guy came in to get a prescription for warticon which is a cream for genital warts. He didn't see her but she recognised him. The scrip was for him no doubt.

Should my friend tell my other friend about this ? I think theres supposed to be some kind of chemist/customer confidentiality but what should she do ?

Thanks for advice.

Zipppy

She should be using condoms until she knows him a lot better anyhow...I'd say nothing and assume she's mature enough to resolve her own sex life..if she isn't she shouldnt be having sex !!

seamus

What to Do ? wrote: »

Should my friend tell my other friend about this ?

Oh jaysus no. She should not tell under any circumstances.

Think about the possible trails. She tells the friend, who then assumes that the guy is a "player" who sleeps around and stops talking to him. They bump into eachother in a club some night, with a few drink on her she tells him why she stopped talking to him, trail leads back to your friend who loses her job and can never work in a pharmacy again.

It would be unethical of the pharmacist friend to relay details of a customer to another friend. The ethics in this case are more important than any moral obligation to her friend.

They guy is getting treatment for it, so he deserves the benefit of the doubt that he will either hold off until he's clear, or insist on protection if/when they have sex.

solerina

Definately not, its his personal business. She should however remind your other friend to use condoms if things are likely to go that far....as she should do with any new partner

midlandsmissus

Jesus I'm worried about the confidentiality of Pharmacists now. Of course she shouldn't tell him. It's none of her business and breaking customer confidentiality.

What if you have to take an anti-depressant for a short time some day, or have some embarassing disease, would you want your pharmacist telling people around them?

dudara

There appears to be an awful lot of assumptions going on here.

In short, stay quiet. It's not your business, and you don't know for certain.

carolmon

people are missing the point.... this girl has already broken confidentiality by telling the OP.

posts like this make me despair of the smallness of Ireland where everybody knows everybody's business or thinks they do.

ted1

FYI. Solerina condoms don't stop gential warts

qwertytlk

No definatley not. Its not her business an she could loose her job for gossiping about customers private medical information. Its much like doctor/patient confidentiality. No one outside the pahrmacy staff should know what prescriptions people are getting. Its extreemly private information. I certainley wouldnt want people discussing my private business like that,woud you?!
Anyway she doesnt even know the circumstances around this guys problem. I mean it doesnt neccesarily mean he is some 'player' going around having unprotected sex with every girl he meets...you never know, his long term girlfriend could have cheated on him and he could have caught it that way!

mikemac

Unacceptable to be gossiping about people's prescriptions

Stay out of it and tbh your friend deserves to lose her job

jimmycrackcorm

I don't know the answer to this dilemma but do you really want your friend to get herpes?

sam34

jimmycrackcorm wrote: »

I don't know the answer to this dilemma but do you really want your friend to get herpes?

genital warts and herpes are two totally separate illnesses caused by different viruses.

It's far more likely that he's just some guy who's a bit embarrassed who'll just hold off on sex until it's cleared up, rather than some guy who's so desperate for sex he's going to go round infecting girls with gential warts. It's his business anyway.

If any tale-telling is going on, it should be this pharmacist worker who gets reported. Absolutely shameful to be spreading people's business like that.

gypsy_rose

I think now that she knows, your friend should know. I know it's horrible and it should be private, but really condoms don't protect you from catching it, and it stays with you for life, nasty thing to catch. It doesn't matter how he got them, he may not be promiscuous at all, but the fact is he has them and may spread them on. However, it is kind of tricky, because you never know, if they get serious he might tell her himself. Is she absolutely positive that the cream is definitly for genital warts only? If I was her I would want to know, and I'd be grateful to the person who told me.

solerina

ted1 wrote: »

FYI. Solerina condoms don't stop gential warts

Yes, but considering I dont think she should tell her what his condition is, then at least she should advise her to try and be safe, it may at least make her think about having sex with him in the first place.

Shane732

Just one point - something like 85% of individuals who are sexually active pickup the genital warts virus at some point.

Only a very small % actually develop visible warts.

Anyway, is warticon solely for use on genital warts?

Huge assumptions being made here so I think it would be best not to say anything.

amdublin

No she bloody should not.
It is part of her job to keep peoples personal business private.

To be fair to him he is being proactive and treating the problem. There are loads who don't.

CyberJuice

your friend needs to be fired now,she can no longer be trusted with patient details and if i knew her i would report her myself to her bosses or to the guy with the warts..this is exactly why people under a certain age should not be given suich jobs where they hadle sensitive information

teenage girls, girls in 20s, they tend to gossip alot or tell their 1 best friend everything, should be 30 or over for such jobs i think

gypsy_rose

Shane732 wrote: »

Just one point - something like 85% of individuals who are sexually active pickup the genital warts virus at some point.

Only a very small % actually develop visible warts.

Anyway, is warticon solely for use on genital warts?

Huge assumptions being made here so I think it would be best not to say anything.

Sorry to derail the thread but I have to contradict you there, something like 60% of people who contract the virus develop warts. I know I'm not supposed to post links but I think it's important, mods feel free to edit. Got my statistic from the bottom of the page. A 60% chance is too high in my opinion, plus the fact that contracting the virus can give you cancer, it's not something I would wish on my worst enemy.


http://www.wart.ie/_mgxroot/page_10748.html

gypsy_rose

gypsy_rose wrote: »

Sorry to derail the thread but I have to contradict you there, something like 60% of people who contract the virus develop warts. I know I'm not supposed to post links but I think it's important, mods feel free to edit. Got my statistic from the bottom of the page. A 60% chance is too high in my opinion, plus the fact that contracting the virus can give you cancer, it's not something I would wish on my worst enemy.

Well if we're going to derail the thread I might as well butt in that that's wrong.

The wart virus and the cancer virus are two different things, they're just both of the HPV type. So if you have warts from HPV, you know that the HPV you have is not the type to give you cancer.
As for the 60% thing, your website does say that but the well woman centre (which I'd be more inclined to believe) quotes one in a hundred. So until a scientific paper is quoted we'll all have to keep quiet on that one.

Either way the issue in question is whether or not some pharmacist worker should spread news about a customer's genital warts. Which I would class as being his own business. And there is certainly no reason to think he's giving anyone cancer.