My Nephews fostercare

theclimb

Hi i really dont know were to start so here it goes the Question

I have been advised by a social worker today that my 3 nephews are being taken into fostercare in the next few days and out of the the care of my sibiling i know that they are better of out of the enviroment they are in and asked if i could take all three she said she would look into it and did.

she rang me back this eve and told me that i could not take them as my son had a few issues i needed to sort out, my son has had adhd from the age of 5 and now is maintained well in school and at home. i feel i am being punished for my sons diagnosise.

i love these boys so much and dont want them to go into the care of a stranger. i dont know what to do has anyone out there ever been refused like this and if so what did you do . what can i do, any suggestions would be gratefully appreiated

Regards

Morag

Ask to speak to her supervisor and get reports to support how well your son is doing.

qwertytlk

The sw wouldnt have made the decision on her own. The team leaders have the final say so on most things so ask to speak to the team leader. Or ask for a meeting with the two of them. Find out exactley what their concersn are. Ask your sons school for a letter or report outlining the great improvements he has made etc.
Basically show them you are committed to this. And make it clear your willing to accomodate any changes they may want you to make etc.
To my knowledge they usually prefer to place children with family or a familiar person, where suitable.

Hope this helps. Best of luck.

sam34

this seems very sudden if they are going in the next few days- as a sibling were you only informed today or have you known that the SWs have been involved for a while?

taking three children from their home is not a decision taken lightly or quickly (unless emergency situation) so it's surprising they hadn't involved you before this, especially if you have been involved and supportive and staying with you is a viable option