Neighbours fighting again, call the gardaí?

LegacyUser

I'm in a decent apartment by myself, I'm a renter

And yet again the couple upstairs are shouting and screaming at each other.
They're not constantly at it, maybe once a week

But for the last hour or so they'd at it like thunder up there, non stop shouting.
I don't think anyone has ever been hit, I never hear crying

And it's not like the guy is bullying her, she gives as good as she gets, some mouth on her.
I think it's your mans brother who comes around now and again to sort things out, he's a nice guy, was talking to him once though I don't know his name or mobile.

As I type this I don't know what they're doing now, my ceiling is banging.
They were smashing plates last week

Call the local station?
I work from home and live on my own, they are going to know well it was me.
So if the gardaí show up to cool heads and don't say who called them I fear they'll turn on me

Ever see a couple fighting on the street, a lad steps in and then the couple turn on the good samaritan?

That's what I fear.

Do I call the gardaí to send a car around to check them out? Would that make me a busybody?
Or mind my own business?

Now as my finish my post the guy has stormed out so if a squad car showed up they might think I made up the story?

Squiggler

If the noise is at unsociable hours you might be able to make a complaint to the management company (check the rules for the complex).

I had neighbours like that... it was part of their relationship but they didn't realise that everyone could hear... a couple of subtle letters from the management company about excessive noise on certain dates at certain times and they toned it down.

homerjay2005

put a note in their door and make them aware that its making you uncomfortable, they could be just thinking nobody can hear them, as for example you live on your own and keep to themselves. its not really a gardai issue to be honest so best not to go down that route yet.

once a week is normal and they could be loud people. the walls may also be thin, priory hall nearby by any chance?:p

kylith

Do you know if they're renting? If they are then a word with their landlord would be in order.

Miss Fluff

Do you pay a management company an annual fee? If so, write them a letter asking that they retain your anonimity and ask them to deal with it. They can then hopefully send a general complaint letter rather than specific times being mentioned when they know it could only be you.

lovelyhurler

Hi OP,

Similar thing happened to us.
What you have to do is note exactly the times, dates and length of the arguement/loud noise. You can then go to the management company and/or landlord (if apt is being rented).
If the apartment is being rented, and you feel that you are getting no hop from the landlord, contact the PRTB (www.prtb.ie) and lodge an offical complaint.

As I say this happened to us, and we ended up going down the PRTB route and getting a decision in our favour. We've have peace ever since.

Neyite

I would be tempted to go the informal route first - put a note in their letterbox (anonymous if you prefer) that their shouting and fighting is disturbing other residents, as is the smashing of crockery, and that the next time they kick off without consideration for others in the building you will be calling the Gardai and they can have the pleasure of explaining to the Gardai why they are so inconsiderate of others.

Emme

I wouldn't go the informal route in this case. If they're that crazy they could both turn on the OP, up the noise and make things even more difficult for her. If I were her I'd report the noise to the management company and her landlord. I agree with the poster who said to record the times and dates of the incident. This important because if they're disturbing people after certain hours then their behaviour could be classed as antisocial. Keeping a written record is the most important thing. If the OP left a note into the couple above her this might not be in her favour later on.

Athlone_Bhoy

I agree the landlord.

If you're ringing the guards don't give your name as the person has a right to know who is was. Which may bring you more trouble than it's worth.

LegacyUser

Just put a note under their door saying


"Please can you stop arguing all the time, if you hate each other so much then just break up.

Signed,
Your Future Kids."

ibarelycare

I don't think you can do much about noise unless it's in unsociable hours? The OP posted this in the afternoon. If they were keeping you awake late at night then that wuold be a different story. Just because you work from home, doesn't mean everyone should have to be quiet for your benefit unfortunately.

C-J

ibarelycare wrote: »

I don't think you can do much about noise unless it's in unsociable hours? The OP posted this in the afternoon. If they were keeping you awake late at night then that wuold be a different story. Just because you work from home, doesn't mean everyone should have to be quiet for your benefit unfortunately.

I have to disagree here, everybody is entitled to feel safe and comfortable in their own home in relative peace. I live in an apartment and theres obviously noise occasionally pots pans talking etc but everybody has the decency to not act like an antisocial yob roaring their heads off! I would most certainly call the gardai. Why should you sit in silence in your own home, your home is your palace? It's a no brainer

mikemac

ibarelycare wrote: »

. Just because you work from home, doesn't mean everyone should have to be quiet for your benefit unfortunately.

I think the OP was more upset then bothered by the noise

Listening to loud music or parties is one thing, it comes with apartment living and everyone knows this, people can't be quiet as mice all the time.

But fighting and screaming and plates being smashed can upset people like the OP
Or maybe she feels unsafe like what if she steps outside just as one of them is storming out of the flat

goose2005

Maybe turn on loud music whenever it happens, eventually they'll make the connection.

Greaney

I've lived with a situation like this before. It was very disturbing. I would not let them know in person or identify myself. Instead, I would call the guards, take notes, call the management company/Landlord and ask them to take care of it. You can tell the guards that you fear for your safety and and they won't identify you. They shouldn't put you in a situation where you could be in danger and they know that.

The couple upstairs may be very embarrassed to discover their neighbours can hear everything.