Is he plating it cool or not that interested?

mspink

I met a guy out 2 wks ago he approached me. We chatted, danced and kissed before we went our separate ways. That night he text to see if I was home ok. He texted again the next day, we chatted for a few hours then and again 2 days during the week. He then asked if id like to meet up again that weekend which we did and it all went really well I thought. He dropped me home and was respectful we just kissed and he left. He then text the following day asking how I was and we chatted again.

I texted him during the week and he took a few hours to reply but I didn't take much notice as he said he was working. We had a good chat but he didn't mention anything about meeting up again. He didn't text anymore until 4 days later which was last night at 2:30am asking if I'd had a good night out (he was out in another city) I was quite annoyed that he waited until then to text so I didn't reply until this afternoon which was 7 hours ago and I've heard nothing since.

I don't know if he's embarrassed that he drunk texted me, is playing mind games or just is uninterested but I don't know what to do as I'm finding it very irritating. I feel if he didn't like me last weekend would he have bothered texting the next day or drunk texting last night? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

gmac102

When in doubt, leave out

My view would be if you have to ask is he interested he prob isnt.

I am a friend

Tbh I suspect he is not all that pushed but is keeping his options open. The 2.30 am text was probably nothing more than a drink text.

Personally I would not get too worked up about this guy. You don't need a messer...

From what you say, he initiated the contact on five separate occasions, you just the once.
You didn't contact him also for four days and deliberately didn't reply until later.
Maybe you are setting a bad precedent here of having to chase and playing mind games.

mspink

geeby wrote: »

From what you say, he initiated the contact on five separate occasions, you just the once.
You didn't contact him also for four days and deliberately didn't reply until later.
Maybe you are setting a bad precedent here of having to chase and playing mind games.

That's true I've only initiated contact twice but when I didn't get a response for hours the last time it made me feel like he didn't want to hear from me. I get what youre saying though. What would you suggest I do? He still hasn't replied to my last text so I guess I can't do much....

mspink

mspink wrote: »

That's true I've only initiated contact twice but when I didn't get a response for hours the last time it made me feel like he didn't want to hear from me. I get what youre saying though. What would you suggest I do? He still hasn't replied to my last text so I guess I can't do much....

If it was me,I would send one more friendly, non-emotional text and if he doesn't reply, forget about him.

I know its traditional for the guy to chase the girl but i'm one of those people who quickly notices when i'm the only one who seems interested. Would much prefer something a bit more 50/50.

I am a friend

I would leave it - he sent you a drunk text and then hasn't replied since. He is a messer

Colonel_McCoy

Maybe you should have suggested meeting for a second date?

Emme

Colonel_McCoy wrote: »

Maybe you should have suggested meeting for a second date?

If he was interested he would have done that.

I don't know if it's me, but I've noticed that more guys don't make much effort these days and leave it up to the girl to do the chasing. Then they take hours to return texts or don't return texts at all. Or else they text when drunk.

A 2.30am text sent from when a guy is out isn't good. It usually means that he's not having a good night and is keeping you as a booty call option or he's bored.

Personally I think he's a time waster.