What's he looking for?

LegacyUser

So long story short, I met this guy at a nightclub last week. We got talking and had a laugh and ended up back at his place. It was fun and good and before going to sleep, he told me that it was great finding a girl that he could spend a night with, with no emotional attachment. This was fine with me as I wasn't looking for anything more serious either.
The next morning, he couldn't remember my name and I had to repeat it. He asks for my number anyways while dropping me home and tells me to save it under a different name, as it was an easier name to remember.
He arrived at my house that evening (unannounced) but I was asleep and didnt hear him. My housemates told me in the morning. It was a surprise but I thought nothing of it, thinking if he really wanted to meet again, he could text or ring me.
Last night, as I was about to go out, he arrived at my house again (again, unannounced). He told me that he had forgotten the name my number was saved under but asked if I wanted to go back to his again. I told him I couldn't, I wasn't even going to stay out long as I had to get up in the morning early. I told him the name of the place we were going and suggested he came along. He refused as he said he was playing poker with his mates but wanted to know when was the next time I was free. I told him Sunday and he seemed a bit disappointed but agreed, told me he'd ring me beforehand and left the house.
Later on in the night, one of my friends came running up to me, to tell me that he was at the nightclub too and was looking for me. I was very surprised to hear this and didn't believe her as I didn't think I'd hear from him until Sunday but sure enough, he was there was a few of his friends. He didn't ask to take me home again, he just danced with me and when it was time to go home, kissed me and left.
I'm finding this very confusing. He said he only wanted a one-night stand yet he shows up again at my house unannounced twice. He forgets my name, but still asks for my number. I don't know what he is looking for out of this and was hoping someone could shed some light as I'm at a loss...

Faith

I have to admit, I thought this was a joke at first. He saved your number under an EASIER name?! What a tool. Honestly, did that not set off alarm bells for you? Not to mention insulting you by straight out saying there was no emotional attachment (meaning he wasn't interested in anything except your body).

To answer your question, he's looking for a convenient fúck buddy, pure and simple. He'll show up when he wants sex, but that will be it. By the sounds of it, he'll treat you like nothing more than a prostitute given that he's refusing to even remember your name and thinks it's fair game to show up at your house unannounced.

Go along with it if you're happy with those terms, but if it were me, I'd run a bloody mile from someone like that.

Jess16

So this guy can't remember your name yet has no difficulty remembering where you live to show up on your doorstep unannounced, twice -who did he ask for when speaking to your housemates?

I find this behaviour totally bizarre and inappropriate, people don't usually invite themselves to the homes of strangers they've just met. Nor do they ask them to use different names. Personally, he doesn't sound like someone I'd want any involvement with but if you must, then ensure you speak with him to get answers for his strange behaviour before proceeding very carefully

Giselle

OP, what he's looking for is sex.

He can't be *bothered* to remember your name or call you first.

What you do with that information is up to you.

Overheal

The lad's blood is clearly absent from his brain.

Miss Fluff

What's he looking for? He was actually very clear in telling you.

RatherConfused wrote: »

he told me that it was great finding a girl that he could spend a night with, with no emotional attachment.

He also sounds like a total knob jockey who is totally lacking in social mores by the way.

If you're looking for anything other than the ride from this muck savage I wouldn't be getting my hopes up.

ElleEm

Jess16 wrote: »

So this guy can't remember your name yet has no difficulty remembering where you live to show up on your doorstep unannounced, twice -who did he ask for when speaking to your housemates?

I find this behaviour totally bizarre and inappropriate, people don't usually invite themselves to the homes of strangers they've just met. Nor do they ask them to use different names. Personally, he doesn't sound like someone I'd want any involvement with but if you must, then ensure you speak with him to get answers for his strange behaviour before proceeding very carefully

All of this!

At the start it sounded like a f- buddy arrangement but all this showing up at your house unannounced, turning up at the nightclub stuff would FREAK me out. Even if you agreed to start seeing each other on the first night, his behaviour is showing that he is VERY keen- possibly in a crazy way.