Boyfriends mother and family hate me its affecting us

LegacyUser

My boyfriend has had a rough 2 years from his dad passing away to ending up recently in a mental hospital due to A nervous breakdown caused by us living abroad , his rough 2 years his mother throwing him over to the uk to work , her not being there for him , before we left for the uk she told me her own son was worthless and to break up with him , and from having to support me financially after i lost my job.

Now his mother all changed and hates me and is more loving towards her son which makes me happy for him but comes over every month for a weekend, I had to return home to ireland for my own mental stability and because he mother threw me out of my house in the uk and she hates me now from accusing me of being with him to take his land and his houses and saying if we were to ever return to ireland she would sell all her houses just so we cant get it .... Im 20 I have no interest in this and I am very much independent and I really don't want anything , now where we live most of his family are around and so she has pretty much turned all his aunts and uncles against me. I owed him 900 from him supporting me and I have half this paid back already.

I am now back in my house again and able to pay my own rent but I am getting sick and feeling very mentally unstable because of being loathed by his family, I also live with 2 guys and his mother comes over invites my boyfriend and his 2 housemates out for dinner and always never invites me and just when Im around she says to my boyfriend im so dissapointed in you to him about me and now that Im back in my house she just infruiates me and its starting to make me and my boyfriend fight .

I don't know what to do because i feel so depressed and starting to hate my boyfriend who just tries hard to be nice to both of us

Daisy M

Hi I really don't know what advice to give you as both of you sound really vunerable mentally. Normally I would say that your bf needs to standup for you and let his mother know he will not tolerate her treating you so badly and that he should refuse any lunch invitations where his friends are invited but not you. However given his recent hospitalisation this is not something I would advise. Write to his mother explain that you two fighting is affecting you and your bf mentally and see if there is a way to mend the relationship with her.
Your post is unclear to me, I think you have now returned to live in England in what is your bfs mothers house. If this is the case my advice would be to rent a place of your own either with or without your bf.

Miss Fluff

I actually can't make head nor tail of your post OP.

Big Bag of Chips

Why or how did your boyfriend's mother throw you out of your own house? You both need to show a united front against her.

If she invites him out to lunch, with the other 2 guys, but not you.. he shouldn't go.. or else you should. Just go along. it's hardly a formal invitation to a pre-booked table in a busy restaurant that there's not room for an extra person?

She is treating you like children and you are allowing it. It may well be hard for him to stand up against her as this has been his life. His "normal" now is her dominating him... Your normal isn't that.. so stand up for yourself. You're 20 - young, but an adult.

Your post is very confusing, but all you can is not allow yourself to be treated badly by her. What's the worst that can happen if you stand up to her - she won't like you? She already doesn't!