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Spare Wheel

  • 13-10-2011 9:56pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm a guy, would consider myself decent looking, I'm in the latter half of my 20's, working in a decent job etc. I don't have a problem talking to women I have a few female friends. but I always seem to get turned down when it comes to the dating scene.

    There are a number of us going to a 21st party in 2 weeks for a friends little sister and while that's all well and good I am really considering not going at all lately. The lads are all bringng their partners and/or dates and I haven't been able to find someone to bring with me at all. I even just taken a punt and asked a few of my female friends from work but no joy. I've always had a problem with getting dates or meeting a girlfriend. I don't fancy sitting there the only one of the lads alone and 6 couples around me.

    Am I overreacting does anyone have any suggestion?


Comments

  • #2
    Gannicus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,736 ✭✭✭Gannicus


    Go stag. its a 21st I'm sure there'll be girls there.


  • #3
    Balobas87
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21 ✭Balobas87


    hi OP, I know it is awful to be the 'spare wheel' or whatever you want to call it. believe me I have been there many times, and like you I was invited to a going away party with all the couples. I freaked out not having anyone to bring either and contemplated not going in the end I did and I was delighted, it was so much fun :)

    I know it's tough, but to be honest i think its more single people that place more pressure on themselves to have to have a partner, im sure your friends dont take a bit of notice!Besides, .....beats sitting in at home watching x factor or the football feeling sorry for yourself AND who knows who you could meet ;)!


  • #4
    snafuk35
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 833 ✭✭✭snafuk35


    Just don't go to the party if you are sure to feel the odd one out and stop comparing yourself to other people or caring what they think.


  • #5
    qwertytlk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 747 ✭✭✭qwertytlk


    Hi, i have a partner and when we go out together i dont spend the night sitting on his knee and ingnoring everyone else. In fact it would be the exact opposite. So unless these friends who are in couples are totally ignorant and would behave like love struck teenagers then i dont think you need to worry. Regardless of wheater their partners are with them or not, you shouldnt feel left out because they are all your friends! And in my experience, at 21st and other such events, everyone kind of mingels and talks to everyone so you might even meet someone! You will meet somone when yout least expecting it, so in the mean time i reckon you should enjoy being single and take advantage of your freedom to do what you like, when you like!


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