scared she may be pregnant.

LegacyUser

I did something foolish about three weeks ago. Long story short I ended up sleeping with a friend of mine. We used a condom and I tested it afterwards with bit of water. AFAIK there was no problem. I was also very careful not to let it slide off at all. On top of that I didn't come and the whole thing lasted about 2 mins (I realised it was a mistake and pulled out). I don't think she was on the pill.

At the moment I'm terrified that she may be pregnant. I know the odds of it are slim (and could be slimmer if she is on the pill) but not that slim. I've been worrying for days and it's taking it's toll on my work. I have had very bad problems with anxiety for the last few years and this whole event has made me realise that I'm not cut out for this. Really not into one night stands. I'll be wiser next time.

Another worry of mine is that the condom was in my wallet for a few months and I'm worried that it may have been damaged as a result. I wasn't aware that this was an issue but after googling it I see that it is. It seemed fine at the time, the wrapper was not damaged and it was years from expiring. It was also kept in a part of my wallet which is unlikely to get any body heat or movement. Just me being paranoid I hope.

Am I worrying about nothing or is there a realistic chance? I know there is of course a chance but is it worth worrying about?
Thanks in advance,
Dave

allgirlz

What has you so worried? If you used a condom and it did not break then chances are all is fine, I think you are pinning your anxiety on this rather than sorting out what is making you so anxious. You may have a bit of guilt about the one night stand or maybe you are having a flare up of anxiety, I would try and not think about it too much. If the anxirty continues then go and have a chat with your gp, or if you attend a counsellor then go back to them, CBT would be great for your anxiety.. This site has a list of accreditated counsellors if you don't already have one http://www.irish-counselling.ie/. In the meantime, take it easy on yourself.

Neyite

Try not to worry. If there was a pregnancy, its likely that she would have missed a period by now. Look at the facts:
You used a condom - and didnt come.
Condom was fine aftewards and in date.
There are only a certain amount of days in a womans cycle that conception is likely. The egg lasts for 12 hrs, and sperm can survive a couple of days either side of that. So she may not have been in her fertile time.
Out of about an average of 350million sperm about 20 or so survive to reach the fallopian tubes to fertilise an egg - so you can imagine that if you didnt come, plus wore a condom, how unlikely it is that she is pregnant.

livinsane

Im no doctor but I'd be very surprised if she was pregnant.
Only way to ease your mind is to ask her to do a pregnancy test. No big deal, get one in the chemist. Im sure she wont mind.

qwertytlk

Hi, does the girl in question actually think she is pregnant? Has she missed a period? If you used a condom, didnt come, pulled out after a minute and it didnt split AND shes on the pill, then i dont know why your worrying tbh? In my opinion there is no chance she is pregnant... Ok i know you can get pregnant from pre-cum, but as i sad above, u used a condom and it didnt split and shes on the pill. So you have covered all bases! Relax, i wouldnt think you have anything to worry about!
Also have you seen your gp or a counsellor regarding your issues with stress / anxiety? Of not then perhaps it would be a good idea.

DazMarz

I think you are very, very safe here. There is almost no chance she's pregnant. You were smart in that you used a condom. Also, she's on the pill. ALSO... you pulled out before orgasm and it was a very short experience. I don't think you should be overly worried.

That said, it is a frightening thing for a young person (I should know, I was there before; thankfully it turned out to be a false alarm). YOu are always going to be worried about it, no matter what anyone says.

But as another poster has said, gently ask her to take a pregnancy test and just talk to her. If she's a good friend, I'm sure you both want to try and help each other and just clear the air.

Good luck!

ted1

Is this your first time having sex? What age are you?
I really doubt that she is pregnant. I have never heard of people testing a condom after.

I think there is a diifferent issue here that you need to talk to counsellor for.

LegacyUser

Thanks for replying. I'm not actually sure if she's on the pill and I think it's unlikely but i'll ask next time I see her. I wouldn't be nearly as worried if she was on the pill. I suppose that it's still unlikely but it's difficult not to worry.

I'm probably going to see someone about my anxiety. I've done it before and found it useful. I'm not usually this bad, I wasn't as paranoid with past girlfriends. It was just a sudden thing so the anxiety hit me all at once. With other partners it has been thought about before doing anything.