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Should I tell her?

  • 09-10-2011 12:47pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi guys

    Me a lovely girl the other night who I clicked with straight away. I'm going out on a date with her in a couple of days and I'm really hoping it goes well because I really like this girl.

    The trouble is I'm going away to Australia in a few months for a year and I'm wondering should I tell her before we go out or should I wait and see how it goes?

    Also, if it does go well would it be stupid to pursue it considering it won't last long?


Comments

  • #2
    2much2take
    Closed Accounts Posts: 39 ✭2much2take


    Yeah, tell her.

    If there is one thing I learned the hard way, its better to tell her what you plan in the future.


  • #3
    SandraManson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 60 ✭✭SandraManson


    Tell her the truth, rather than hiding it away from her. :)


  • #4
    trio
    Closed Accounts Posts: 494 ✭✭trio


    Why WOULDN'T you tell her??

    The only reason I can think of that you might not want to tell her, is you're afraid you won't get a second date. But that's really selfish - so what if she doesn't want to see you again?? It wouldn't be anything personal at this early stage - she just might not want to get involved with someone who isn't going to be around for long. And that would be fair enough.

    But that should be HER choice, and if you don't give her that choice you're being sneaky and underhand.

    Don't start out that way.

    Put it this way, she won't thank you if you start going out together and four weeks down the road (once the relationship has presumably gotten intimate) you turn around and say "Oh! There's something I forgot to mention! I'm off to Oz for a year in a couple of weeks! D'oh! How forgetful am I!!! "

    That would leave a very bad taste in her mouth. She'd have a right to be pissed off. And since you're going to part from her sooner or later, you don't want to part with her remembering you as that guy.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the quick replies guys.

    To be honest, it wasn't that I was trying to be sneaky or anything like that. I just wasn't sure if it was a bit silly telling her before we go out because she might see it as a bit irrelevant considering we don't know for sure if this will even go further than a first date.

    I was thinking it will probably come up when we go out anyway


  • #6
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,349 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    Definitely tell her! What have you got to lose! Be honest with her if you think you have any chance of things moving on after your date. If you want things to work out with her tell her you are going away to Australia its the least you could do and it be courteous towards her.

    She will wonder what happened to you if you just went off and not tell her. It be a bit rude not to tell her otherwise. If she thinks she is in with a chance with you, if not she move on like. So best to get in there and go for it. Tell her! The fact is you really like her that's saying something. Good luck on your date!


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