guys.....:S

EatRowSleep

Well i didnt know where else to put this, so i guessed this would be best :P

Anyways, i couldnt find any other thread to do with this stopic so i thought id start my own... For any advice or anything that ppl want or have to give

Any advice for me? Lonnnggg story....

Many months ago, i was at a sports event with our sports club. Me and a few others were hanging around the bus, and everyone was talking about who they liked and stuff... (well i didnt) One of the guys said, who do u like ... (we'll call him Bob :P) i heard it's that (we'll call me Anne)... 'Bob' got all embarraased and just said shut up. I was kinnda complimented, but i thought nothinng of it, i didnt really care tbh... So anyways, timme went on.... I used to see him in town a lot, and if i did, he's say hi and so would all his friends. they'd all be in a group, so they all know me now. :P Bob used always ask me 'oh, hows rowing going?' We both do the sport so i see him almost every day. well like i said, i thought bob was jus beiing friendly, i didnt take any notice of it... But one night, i had a dream about bob.. In it, welll, you can guess what happened in it... It was a good dream anyways :L And ever since, i really like him.. I see him like 5 times a week at rowing but im really scared talking to him... we're friends on facebook, but im afraid to chat to him...

I wanna talk to him, cos i knoow i like himm... I look forward to seeiing him at rowing, and if he's not there, im kinda dissapointed. If i see him with other girls i get jelous... I wannt to talk to him, and know what the story iss with him.. Did he like me or was that a rumour? Does he still? One of my friends knows, and thats it... how can i find out? and how can i become more confident talking to him??? I need help !

hatrickpatrick

Flirt with him and see what happens!

hatrickpatrick

On a brief side note: Isn't it amazing the way you can have absolutely no idea that you like someone, and then you have one dream about them and you're completely smitten from that day forward?

I don't get how that happens but it's really weird. I wonder if the dream is just your subconscious mind finally working it out or something.

BBDBB

he's probably a bit shy and needs a bit of encouragement cos he's not sure whether you like him

next time you bump into him, ask him about himself and what else he does besides rowing, show some interest in it and him. That will give you some clues as to what else you might have in common and he hopefully will get the message you are interested


its all a bit of a game, but can be worth it


good luck

dr.bollocko

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OP just try and strike up some conversation with him. Hopefully his nervousness will subside and things will move along.

themadchef

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OP just try and strike up some conversation with him. Hopefully his nervousness will subside and things will move along.

What doc said OP. Just a bit of chit chat, the nerves will pass eventually. Laying a bit of groundwork through friendship is never a bad thing.

Chrushes are amazing. Ya would think they get a bit easier as you get older, we just find more ways to make things more complicated so go for it. Nothing to lose, everything to gain!

SandraManson

Talk to him more and get to know each other better! Every relationship starts from just being "friends."

EatRowSleep

:)Well thanks for ye're replies

LIke i said, I see him every day (includin this morning). "Flirt witth him and see what happens". <-- the thing is, i dont kow how! He is kinda shy. He's not reallyy outgoing, but he's not really quiet either. Happy medium See, he does rowing with his friends, so he's always with him... I'd feel really self concious talking to him if his friends were listening like, even though i kow them all and they know me too. I know a lot about him cos im friends with his sister, so i know what he's like at home and stuff... I know there's nothing to lose, but if i say something stupid, it'll look weird..

I dont have his phone number, so I cant text him or anything like that... I would love to text him, cos i find it way eaasier to txt someone than to talk to them in person... Bt i dont know how to get his number...

Today, however, something eventful happend at rowing traning.. IT was thetalk of the club and very funny. So i have a conversation to talk about like.. Plus there's an upcoming event that we're both sculling in, so that's common interest like But i dont know ho to start talking to him, or ask for his number, or chat to him on fb, or anything... Im too quiet and its ruining all my chances ...:(:confused::(

BBDBB

it is hard, it is all about confidence (or at least it seems to be) and yet feels so vulnerable, I do empathise. Actually, so does he, if he is shy and likes you, then he is feeling just as reluctant to say something for fear of appearing stupid too.

Will the sculling event need/can you suggest any extra training as it approaches? Maybe all those involved should arrange some extra training.........hmmm, maybe it would be a good idea for all of you to write down your numbers on a bit of paper and then copy them and distribute them to help you all organise things for teh big day, transport, food/energy drinks, equipment, lifts etc??

EatRowSleep

We train 6 days a week, so we actually couldn't do any more training...:p Boys and girls mostly train together, so i am with him a lot. Although sometimes they might be in a different area of the club..

That does seem like a good idea, but im the kinda person to suggest things.... PLus we get a bus....