I need help

lady1987

I am 24 and now more than ever I am constantly obsessing over how I look. I wish it was merely vanity but the more I see myself in the mirror the more I hate myself.

I have a loving boyfriend who tries to help me to see what he sees but I just can't. I cry almost everyday, I obsess over exercise and try to be good with food but nothing changes what I see.

I keep thinking if I get thinner by any means I'll be happier...I talk myself out of doing anything extreme but I'm so tired of doing it the right way and seeing nothing change

If I can't sort my head or body out I think my boyfriend will leave, then I'll have nothing holding me together.

Doctors say cause I'm not trying to top myself that I'm not that bad. How can I talk openly with a doctor when they say that...?

I'm so tired of seeing myself like this, I need help.

Burkatron

OP you should probably post this in the personal issues forum!
I'd go see a different Dr. or ask for a referral for a psychologist!

dinorebel

Change your Dr and talk to a counselling service there are plenty around maybe this will be some help http://www.counsellingdirectory.ie/ good luck.

squod

http://www.aware.ie/help/helpline/helpline_faqs/

Oryx

OP, I can move this to PI for you if you like.

www.bodywhys.ie is another good source of help. You dont need health and fitness advice right now, you need counselling; your issue has little to do with your actual diet or bodyweight but your attitude towards yourself.

Please use the links above to source some real world help. You can get through this, but don't try to do it alone. I moderate in PI, and I am aware that while forums like this can be helpful, we are no substitute for proper help from the right people.

RacoonQueen

lady1987 wrote: »

Doctors say cause I'm not trying to top myself that I'm not that bad. How can I talk openly with a doctor when they say that...?

I'm so tired of seeing myself like this, I need help.

Find a doctor that will listen. They have a duty of care to you, make them listen.

Nothing anyone on this forum can say exercise or diet wise, will really be of any benefit to you unfortunately.

harrythehat

I don't know what to say to help, but I'll tell you I have started to feel the same recently.

I'm 23 and throughout my teens I was extremely skinny without ever trying, I've put on weight every year since I went to college and now I'm very unhappy with how I look.

I'm only size 12 but with every group of friends I have I seem to be 'the fat one'. I hate it. I can't see how any man would find me attractive and I compare myself constantly to my better looking, slimmer friends.

In my head I know I'm not that bad, but I too feel like I would be so much happier if I could have the figure I had back again.

radia

OP, definitely use the links above to get professional help. It's a great first step that you realise you need to take steps to get out of this mindset, and there are people out there who can help you do so. Don't be deterred just because you've hit an initial stumbling block with your GP.

It is possible to get over this - many others have and you can too. Please read this blog entry from a girl in Belfast just a few days ago - and the comments after it - to realise you're not alone.
Looking back at me - my body image journey.

And best of luck!

Fiona88keating

Im really sorry your finding things so hard at the moment...doctors are notorious for their poor dealings with body issues...is its not psychical alot of them are useless. Please contact bodywhys http://www.bodywhys.ie/ as far as i know there helpline is available mon, wedz and sunday evening and tues, thurs morning. There great to talk to and can often be the first step in the recovery process. I wish you all the best x