The rudeness of some people..

Dublin_Gunner

The missus just called me there in floods of tears.

She collected the little one from crèche, and was bringing her home on the bus as per usual.

She's 20 months old.


She started an absolute tantrum on the bus (the little one!), jumping screaming, crying, hitting her mam etc etc

The missus could heaar other people on the bus giving out saying things like 'she can;t control her child' 'what sort of mother is she' 'oh for gods sake' etc etc to the point my missus broke down in tears and had to get off the bus with embarrassment.

Not only that, but as she was getting off the bus, ad trying to get the buggy, noone would help her or anything.

You'd swear people have never seen a child misbehave before.

I really am disgusted at the way some people carry on, and my missus is extremely upset at the whole thing.

Just wanted to vent. It grinds my gears when people go on like this, and won't even offer a little help - like maybe lifting the buggy down for someone else.

I've always helped anyone with a buggy on to or off the bus.

People's attitude's make me sad sometimes

super_furry

Bus ****.

smash

In fairness, a child throwing a tantrum is a pain in the ass, especially in a confined space.

MitchKoobski

People not being able to control their children makes me sad sometimes.

I'd normally help if I was right next to the buggy, but I'm not getting up from the other side of the bus to help.

People annoyed at a child throwing a tantrum and pissing them off aren't going to help.

Dublin_Gunner

smash wrote: »

In fairness, a child throwing a tantrum is a pain in the ass, especially in a confined space.

Its more of a pain in the ass for the mother, not the ignorant wanker making snide comments.

pajunior

Yeah I don't really have much sympathy, I'd give her a hand with the buggy if she was struggling but would probably be the loudest person on the bus complaining about people not controlling their kids.

Then again your kid might have been jumping around having a laugh while I am thinking of one balling their eyes out screaming.

orourkeda

The kid is probably lucky she didnt get a boot in the arse off someone.

wild_cat

If she started to cry she obviously wasn't in control and frustrated.

Maybe she actually couldn't manage the child....

The King of Moo

smash wrote: »

In fairness, a child throwing a tantrum is a pain in the ass, especially in a confined space.

But just because a child throws a tantrum, it doesn't mean it's the mother's fault.

Every single child will throw a tantrum at some point around the 20-month mark, no matter how well-behaved they are or how good their parents are.

They might usually be able to get the child to hush quickly, but there'll always be the odd mega-tantrum that's hard or impossible to control quickly.

That's just what babies do.

Sooopie

They should have given her a hand with the buggy, that wasn't kind.

I do kinda understand the eyerolling however - nothing worse than listening to someones little darling screaming the place down

Dublin_Gunner

MitchKoobski wrote: »

People not being able to control their children makes me sad sometimes.

I'd normally help if I was right next to the buggy, but I'm not getting up from the other side of the bus to help.

People annoyed at a child throwing a tantrum and pissing them off aren't going to help.

pajunior wrote: »

Yeah I don't really have much sympathy, I'd give her a hand with the buggy if she was struggling but would probably be the loudest person on the bus complaining about people not controlling their kids.

Then again your kid might have been jumping around having a laugh while I am thinking of one balling their eyes out screaming.

wild_cat wrote: »

If she started to cry she obviously wasn't in control and frustrated.

Maybe she actually couldn't manage the child....

Spot the people with no kids, or do none of the minding.

Any of you the **** on her bus by any chance?

Saila

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

She started an absolute tantrum on the bus (the little one!), jumping screaming, crying, hitting her mam etc etc

The missus could heaar other people on the bus giving out saying things like 'she can;t control her child' 'what sort of mother is she' 'oh for gods sake' etc etc to the point my missus broke down in tears and had to get off the bus with embarrassment.(

bless her ears, so she can hear conversations under thier breadth with a screaming kid next to her

whydoibother?

It does seem like she encountered some particularly stupid people if they expect a 20 month old to be well-behaved. They are too young to have any awareness of their own behaviour.

I do understand how people get annoyed when older children misbehave. Often you see a parent doing their best to get the child to be quiet in the moment and they are failing miserably. I'll be honest and say that depending on the behaviour of the child, I sometimes think that it looks like they are a little prince/princess that never hears the word no aside from when a parent feels the need to look like they are making an effort to control them in public. I then have little sympathy for the parent and give them little credit for their futile efforts at that time. It is never going to work if it's just a once-off.

I'm not applying any of this to your wife or your child who I've acknowledged is very young OP. I'm just trying to explain what other people think sometimes.

sensibleken

Your missus is 20 months old?

wild_cat

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

Spot the people with no kids, or do none of the minding.

Any of you the **** on her bus by any chance?

Nope.

But I've never seen a mother with a crying child break down on the bus....

When you break down in public its usually because you've lost control of the situation.

Maybe you've rose tinted glasses on as its your own child and your own wife.

stupidusername

Regardless of whether or not the mother could have done anything a screaming baby is one of the most irritating and deafening things to have to listen to. And to be stuck on a bus with it? Yeah I dont blame them for being pissed off.

pebbles21

She should have left the buggy there.....sure the welfare will give ya a new one anyway...

Dublin_Gunner

Saila wrote: »

bless her ears, so she can hear conversations under thier breadth with a screaming kid next to her

Who said anything about under their breath? Or did you make that part up yourself trying to be a smart arse?

Sunnyisland

We were all kids at some stage and we have all thrown tantrums,unfortunately peoples respect for other people in everyday situations is being lost to the everyone for themselves mentality.
When I am on a bus or luas I always give my seat up to elderly or people with buggies and the looks you get from some of the other passengers its as if I just committed a crime.

jackie1974

I can't stand that judgemental BS, nobody knows the situation. The child could be tired after being up all night, another child could have hit them at creche causing them to be upset etc. Nobody has the right to pass judgement on another persons parenting.

My sisters child is autistic, so looks perfectly fine but is in a buggy and has a comfort blanket and can act different to another 4 year old and one woman in particular tut tuts and gives my sister dirty looks as if to say 'that child shouldn't be in a buggy blah blah' Just shows that she is in fact the ignorant b*tch.

Sorry you're OH had to go through that, it's hard enough to deal with a childs tantrum without having to put up with adults throwing one too.

madmammy

judging by the replies none of you are parents
a 20mth old just out of creche is going to be tired, maybe hungry no wonder they get cranky...you would too and your grown up (not the creche but if you had a long day)
this is the reason why i don't bring my children anywhere unless its in walking distance

i hope your wife can go home and relax put the baby in for a nap and forget about the pr*cks on the bus

Dublin_Gunner

pebbles21 wrote: »

She should have left the buggy there.....sure the welfare will give ya a new one anyway...

Maybe you could go get one so, I wouldn't even know where the welfare office is.

Sooopie

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

Who said anything about under their breath? Or did you make that part up yourself trying to be a smart arse?

If your child takes after you with regards to attitude mate, its no wonder it was kicking off this morning.

Sunnyisland

pebbles21 wrote: »

She should have left the buggy there.....sure the welfare will give ya a new one anyway...

:eek::eek::eek:

poisonated

That is just one thing you have to accept being a parent. I don't know the woman so I am in no way saying that she can't control her kid but I must admit that crying children in a confined space is very annoying. I'd say the right thing to do would be to take the child off the bus and get him/her to settle down. Obviously the child was upset, it is necessary to figure out what the problem is and resolve it. People should not be subjected to a screaming child when they just want to get home after a long days work. It is the parents responsibility to ensure that their child is not a nuissance. As I said, next time, take the child off the bus until it settles down and you could avoid scenarios like this.

pebbles21

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

Maybe you could go get one so, I wouldn't even know where the welfare office is.

I was being sarcastic....its a urban myth thats goin round these parts ......

Didnt mean to offend

Dublin_Gunner

realies wrote: »

We were all kids at some stage and we have all thrown tantrums,unfortunately peoples respect for other people in everyday situations is being lost to the everyone for themselves mentality.
When I am on a bus or luas I always give my seat up to elderly or people with buggies and the looks you get from some of the other passengers its as if I just committed a crime.

jackie1974 wrote: »

I can't stand that judgemental BS, nobody knows the situation. The child could be tired after being up all night, another child could have hit them at creche causing them to be upset etc. Nobody has the right to pass judgement on another persons parenting.

My sisters child is autistic, so looks perfectly fine but is in a buggy and has a comfort blanket and can act different to another 4 year old and one woman in particular tut tuts and gives my sister dirty looks as if to say 'that child shouldn't be in a buggy blah blah' Just shows that she is in fact the ignorant b*tch.

Sorry you're OH had to go through that, it's hard enough to deal with a childs tantrum without having to put up with adults throwing one too.

madmammy wrote: »

judging by the replies none of you are parents
a 20mth old just out of creche is going to be tired, maybe hungry no wonder they get cranky...you would too and your grown up (not the creche but if you had a long day)
this is the reason why i don't bring my children anywhere unless its in walking distance

i hope your wife can go home and relax put the baby in for a nap and forget about the pr*cks on the bus

There is hope for humanity after all.^^


Judging by some of the replies in this thread, its no wonder Irish society has degraded to the everyone for themselves type. Damn country is full of **** who wouldn't help a woman if they saw her handbag being snatched, or wouldn't give their seat or for a pregnant or elderly person.

Very simple little things that people aren't bothered doing anymore, has turned our country into a nation of selfish pricks.

Welruc

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

Its more of a pain in the ass for the mother, not the ignorant wanker making snide comments.

Now in fairness its a pain in the arse for anyone close by

stovelid

out of control cretins blah blah expanding world population blah blah can't look after myself let alone a baby blah blah child benefits blah blah taxpayer blah blah restaurants pubs and long distance flights blah blah feral blah blah blah urchins blah blah blah

westies4ever

sorry your wife was upset OP but that would annoy me. I dont like children and I dont have children so i do get annoyed when other peoples children invade my space - be that with noise or anything else.

i wouldnt have been so rude as to say anything and i would have helped her if i thought she was struggling but your being unfair giving out to people 'oh you dont have kids' etc. thats because we dont like or want them but yet we are expected to put up with other peoples?

egan2020

OP, you'd have been better off starting this thread in the Parenting/Newborn and Toddlers forum.

Dotrel

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

People's attitude's make me sad sometimes

Was it during morning commute hours? I can handle a screaming baby during off-peak hours but if I'm on a packed bus going 3mph and surrounded by smelly, coughing dead-eyed idiots on then I'd probably be in no mood to tolerate or help your missus either.

krudler

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

There is hope for humanity after all.^^


Judging by some of the replies in this thread, its no wonder Irish society has degraded to the everyone for themselves type. Damn country is full of **** who wouldn't help a woman if they saw her handbag being snatched, or wouldn't give their seat or for a pregnant or elderly person.

Very simple little things that our country of selfish pricks has turned into.

whats that got to do with your child throwing a tantrum?

jackie1974

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

There is hope for humanity after all.^^


Judging by some of the replies in this thread, its no wonder Irish society has degraded to the everyone for themselves type. Damn country is full of **** who wouldn't help a woman if they saw her handbag being snatched, or wouldn't give their seat or for a pregnant or elderly person.

Very simple little things that our country of selfish pricks has turned into.

Kids get off the internet and pay attention to the teacher. :rolleyes:

MitchKoobski

Lesson for the day it seems: If you don't agree with the OP, you must be a wanker with no kids.

curlzy

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

Judging by some of the replies in this thread, its no wonder Irish society has degraded to the everyone for themselves type. Damn country is full of **** who wouldn't help a woman if they saw her handbag being snatched, or wouldn't give their seat or for a pregnant or elderly person.

Very simple little things that people aren't bothered doing anymore, has turned our country into a nation of selfish pricks.

TL/DR: rant rant rant, blah blah blah, babies. BORING!!!

stovelid

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

The missus could heaar other people on the bus giving out saying things like 'she can;t control her child' 'what sort of mother is she' 'oh for gods sake' etc etc to the point my missus broke down in tears and had to get off the bus with embarrassment.

Just stroll down and ask them to repeat what they said but but actually to your face.

Watch them stammer and blush.

Walk back to seat.

Let baby cry even louder and wave at now suddenly deathly silent complainers.

The King of Moo

I understand the people posting saying that the sound of a baby screaming is annoying, but there's a difference between just getting annoyed and making audible comments questioning the mother's ability to look after her child.

As for her getting off the bus to control the child: I don't see why she should have to inconvenience herself; she might be miles from her destination.

I find it hard to understand how people can't tolerate a young child crying or even screaming, especially as they're surely smart enough to know that a child so young can't help it.
There are worse things on buses, never mind in the world.

Leftist

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

The missus just called me there in floods of tears.

She collected the little one from crèche, and was bringing her home on the bus as per usual.

She's 20 months old.


She started an absolute tantrum on the bus (the little one!), jumping screaming, crying, hitting her mam etc etc

The missus could heaar other people on the bus giving out saying things like 'she can;t control her child' 'what sort of mother is she' 'oh for gods sake' etc etc to the point my missus broke down in tears and had to get off the bus with embarrassment.

Not only that, but as she was getting off the bus, ad trying to get the buggy, noone would help her or anything.

You'd swear people have never seen a child misbehave before.

I really am disgusted at the way some people carry on, and my missus is extremely upset at the whole thing.

Just wanted to vent. It grinds my gears when people go on like this, and won't even offer a little help - like maybe lifting the buggy down for someone else.

I've always helped anyone with a buggy on to or off the bus.

People's attitude's make me sad sometimes

This is shocking. I don't think it's a understatement to say it's the final nail in the coffin of society.

If it makes you feel any better pal, there's nothing more in life I enjoy than listening to a wailing screaming child on public transport, especially after coming from or going to work.

It's like music to my ears.

Dublin_Gunner

westies4ever wrote: »

sorry your wife was upset OP but that would annoy me. I dont like children and I dont have children so i do get annoyed when other peoples children invade my space - be that with noise or anything else.

i wouldnt have been so rude as to say anything and i would have helped her if i thought she was struggling but your being unfair giving out to people 'oh you dont have kids' etc. thats because we dont like or want them but yet we are expected to put up with other peoples?

We were all children. Our own mothers had to put up with us doing the same at some stage.

And yeah, you do have to put up with other peoples children at times when you're in public, that's the nature of humanity.

I never said anything about anyone not wanting kids, thats you're own choice. But kids are a part of life, obviously.

We're not born at 20 years of age.

FetchTheGin

madmammy wrote: »

judging by the replies none of you are parents

WTF difference does that make?

There are plenty of Parents I know that would be irritated at a screaming child on a bus or restaurant.

*NEWSFLASH* your kids aren't the centre of the universe.

Dotrel

stovelid wrote: »

Just stroll down and ask them to repeat what they said but but actually to your face.

Watch them stammer and blush.

Walk back to seat.

You must enjoy gambling then. You might get that response some or even most times but try enough times and you'll just get a bit extra on top of what you already overheard.

Welruc

stovelid wrote: »

Just stroll down and ask them to repeat what they said but but actually to your face.

Watch them stammer and blush.

Walk back to seat.

and then they say your childs screaming is pissing me off and can you please control him/her....... Then what?

Dublin_Gunner

Leftist wrote: »

This is shocking. I don't think it's a understatement to say it's the final nail in the coffin of society.

If it makes you feel any better pal, there's nothing more in life I enjoy than listening to a wailing screaming child on public transport, especially after coming from or going to work.

It's like music to my ears.

Funny, aren't ya? I hope you feel better now.

ANd it was about an hour ago btw, not at rush hour. How dare someone with a child get on the bus when poor tired people are coming home from their lazy bastarding day in the office. God love you.

Tim the Enchanter

I have sympathy with the OPs missus on this one. Its public transport for christ sake. If people can't put up with the odd discrumpled child they have very little patience in my view. And i agree it is very rude to be commenting on the mothers ability to be a parent.

stovelid

In fairness, public transport is annoying in general. At least a baby can't control what they're doing unlike people chatting on phones, smoking, listening to shitty ringtones etc etc.

Dublin_Gunner

krudler wrote: »

whats that got to do with your child throwing a tantrum?

Its to do with the attitude.

I can see your intellect failed to make the connection.

al28283

Leftist wrote: »

This is shocking. I don't think it's a understatement to say it's the final nail in the coffin of society.

Possibly a bit of an overstatement though

TiGeR KiNgS

It is VERY VERY annoying to have to listen to a child screaming almost as bad as nails on a chalk board.

I would of said something to a friend as well and made sure your wife heard it.

stovelid

deuceswild wrote: »

and then they say your childs screaming is pissing me off and can you please control him/her....... Then what?

Tell them that an infant can't help behaving cretinously from time to time and what's their excuse?

alphabeat

stovelid wrote: »

Just stroll down and ask them to repeat what they said but but actually to your face.

Watch them stammer and blush.

Walk back to seat.

Let baby cry even louder and wave at now suddenly deathly silent complainers.

what if they only rolled their eyes ? ?

what if they were this guy
http://www.imdb.com/media/rm3708590080/nm0001204

didnt think that through did you ????