Got a Happy Birthday text from an ex.

Monkey09

My boyfriend broke up with me about 6 months ago. Since then, it's been no contact at all. I had a number of important things going on in my life over the last 6 months (which he was aware of) but I heard absolutely nothing from him.

Anyway, it was my birthday over the weekend and totally out of the blue, I got a text from him wishing me a happy birthday, he hopes I'm doing well and that he'd like to meet up some time soon to catch up on everything.

So now, I'm left confused and a bit angry. I don't know what he wants from me. He acted really childish and inconsiderate when he broke up with me.

On the other hand, I have thought a lot abut this guy a lot over the last few months. I suppose I miss what we had. But at the same time, he treated me badly at the end and I resent him for that (Deep down, i wished for an opportunity to tell him how badly he treated me.)

At this stage, I'm wondering if I should completely ignore the text, should I reply saying ''thanks'' or should I take the opportunity to meet up with him?

Thanks in advance for any replies!

BraziliaNZ

Monkey09 wrote: »

My boyfriend broke up with me about 6 months ago. Since then, it's been no contact at all. I had a number of important things going on in my life over the last 6 months (which he was aware of) but I heard absolutely nothing from him.

Anyway, it was my birthday over the weekend and totally out of the blue, I got a text from him wishing me a happy birthday, he hopes I'm doing well and that he'd like to meet up some time soon to catch up on everything.

So now, I'm left confused and a bit angry. I don't know what he wants from me. He acted really childish and inconsiderate when he broke up with me.

On the other hand, I have thought a lot abut this guy a lot over the last few months. I suppose I miss what we had. But at the same time, he treated me badly at the end and I resent him for that (Deep down, i wished for an opportunity to tell him how badly he treated me.)

At this stage, I'm wondering if I should completely ignore the text, should I reply saying ''thanks'' or should I take the opportunity to meet up with him?

Thanks in advance for any replies!

I think only you know if the two of you are capable of having a proper relationship, and if that's not what you want with him there's no point in responding or meeting him. You're not going to be his mate, that's for sure.
Someone broke up with me a few months ago and I was pretty gutted, and I would have given anything for her to ask to meet up up until not too long ago, but she did and said things that made our relationship beyond repair I think, and I don't think there would be any point in meeting her, I deserve better. Do you feel like you deserve better than this? You should probably ignore it, the contact is pointless.

Monkey09

Monkey09 wrote: »

He acted really childish and inconsiderate when he broke up with me.

On the other hand, I have thought a lot abut this guy a lot over the last few months. I suppose I miss what we had. But at the same time, he treated me badly at the end and I resent him for that (Deep down, i wished for an opportunity to tell him how badly he treated me.)

^^ Ignore it

If you want to tell him how badly he treated you, write it down in a letter then burn it
then move on

MC.ISF

I'd say stay away and ignore the text. You've already admitted he treated you badly , was childish etc.. You dont need that type of person in your life. Look on to bigger and better things and for a person who will treat you right. I have the same kind of situation , of course we miss the good times with our ex, but just remember the bad times too.

I am a friend

I would reply and say thanks for the birthday wishes but no thanks to meeting up and leave it at that.

He hasn't treated you well at all do why go back down that road.

Miss Fluff

If you respond with even a perfunctory "cheers" you are then reopening the lines of communication, or to use another term, "can of worms"

Ignore it. Focus instead on what a sh1t he was to you and use that to prevent you from caving. I don't think there is anything to be achieved by responding tbh.

Happy Birthday by the way!

amdublin

Ignore the text. He treated you badly at the end of the relationship.

Actions speak louder than words. This text means nothing.

Firetrap

Seeing as you're still angry at him, I don't see what's to be gained by getting back in touch. Perhaps from his point of view he's gotten over the break-up and wants to be friends but I don't think that's what you want. Don't even reply to the text - delete it and try your best to forget about it.

starlit

Avoid him at all costs. No contact, don't reply. He is obviously looking for something and its not anything serious. Don't think you gain anything by meeting up with him again. Your ex boyfriend is in the past for a reason and isn't in your future so ye both have to live with that.

You are still angry with him. He is in your past for a reason just leave him there and move on! The fact he upset you enough by texting you again out of the blue well he is just looking for something if you catch my drift or else looking to be friends like no hard feelings but seriously don't fall into his trap.

Delete and ignore the text and forget about him! There is someone out there that deserves you and you deserve better than the likes of him!

A leopard rarely changes their spots and someone who mistreats you isn't worth their time to be ever taken back. Just move on, someone better will come along that will treat you with more respect and you deserve that much at least!

Sauve

OP I had something very similar recently.
It was about two months after a pretty horrible break up, and the first thing I heard from him after was a text on the morning of a really important day for me, that I'd been preparing for for months, and he knew just what it meant.
The text read "good luck today, you've put in all the hard work and you'll do fine".
I simply replied saying 'thank you'.

If I was you OP, I'd be polite, do reply, but don't open any more communication than a simple reply.
And I wouldn't recommend meeting him either. If you've decided you're better off without him, then don't torture yourself by seeing him and stirring up all those old feelings again.