Help, My 19 year old using drugs. Owes Money, Self Harming

kol1965

Hi All,

I'm at my wits end with my 19 year old son.
He's drinking heavily and has being occasionally smoking weed up to now. I have tried to get him off both on many occasions but know I'm fighting a losing battle.

He went off the rails in the last 2 weeks after losing a job because of smoking weed. He has run up a debt of about €1,000 with 3 small time (16 year old) dealers.
This came to a bust up last week when I wouldn't give him the money to pay off this debt as he will just run it up again.
He self harmed last Thursday and is in Hospital since. he's ok now but is being let out tomorrow.
I have found out the name's, numbers and details of the dealers (and where they go to school).
He has told me that he won't go into a drug/drink rehab program and basically wants to go back to that lifestyle. he has also threatened to go dealing to pay for his habit.
The counsellor in the hospital has told us that there is nothing we can do as he is 19 and any rehab has to be pushed by him.
I have spoken to a Drug Squad friend, who tells me to just meet the dealers, pay the debt and threaten them not to come near my son any more.
When I told my son that I was going to do this, he freaked, saying that he won't be able to walk Cork City again if I do that.
A few threats have come back to me via his 17 year old brother.
I can't believe a word my 19 year old says as he's being lying through his teeth about all this for so long. He tells me that he owes €1,000. I checked his mobile and Facebook chat and think its only €500. I am guessing he wants the balance to buy more of that ****e.

As I see it my options are:

1) Meet them, pay them the money and threaten them to stay away from him,
2) Give the Drug Squad their details and have them rough these guys up (The debt will still stand and will come back to bite him)
3) Ignore the problem and leave him deal with it.

None of the above options are going to end up nicely.
I know he is a big boy now, but he's still my son and I don't want getting beaten to a pulp over this.
I want to sort it in some way.

Please, any suggestions as to what you would do if this was your son?

I personally want to land in their schools, pull them out of class and beat the crap out of them, I also want to meet them down a dark alley and do the same, but that is not going to happen as I don't work that way.

Thanks in advance

K

Chuck Stone

Personal issues I reckon

mackg

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Personal issues I reckon

This

bedirect

pay nothing, get the drug squad to route them out,

maygitchell

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Personal issues I reckon

Heart of stone that chuck of ours

westendgirlie

I think this should be moved.

But before it is..... Why would the drug squad tell ya to meet the dealers and pay his debt?

Nailz

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Personal issues I reckon

This, because here you get

orourkeda wrote: »

Junkie

This...

Mr. CooL ICE

Tell your son and the dealers to read this thread. I'm sure the whole of AH would be delighted to solve these issues

maygitchell

Wait a sec, ive seen this thread before????

Doublechinlolz

As much as I'd love to say something like blast him with piss... You're in the wrong place, head to personal issues forum I suppose

Chuck Stone

maygitchell wrote: »

Heart of stone that chuck of ours

God no.

I just think this woman has taken a wrong turn up th dark alley of AH with a genuine problem.

Someone has already called that youngfeall a junkie ffs :rolleyes:. Some advice.

Killer Pigeon

Let's it's just weed, coffee is worse like.

Cianos

For what it's worth, and this is coming from a non-user, weed is not that big of a deal. If you get over the taboo behind it, maybe that would help your son to as well.

KeithM89_old

Hi,
Youd be better taking this to the Personal Issues forum to get more useful advice

maygitchell wrote: »

Wait a sec, ive seen this thread before????

In your 2 short days on the site you can recall PI threads from the past? :rolleyes:
I see a ban in the very near future for you...