Would you go out with someone who is physically unattractive?

Ms. Pingui

Are looks really important to you when it comes to asking somebody out?

I recently met a guy through my friend and we are getting on really well and talk almost every day. The thing is he is not good looking in the slightest! I know he is interested and untill now I thought I would never consider a man who was'nt good looking! Maybe I'm not as shallow as I thought!

Would you go out with an ugly girl/ guy? Or does there have to be physical attraction for it to work?

westendgirlie

You really should be asking him to be honest

TheZohanS

Oh god...

galwayrush

Lots of money would overcome most unattractive traits.

cjmcork

he's not physically attractive to you, but may be to someone else..........beauty + the eye of the beholder and all that.............

Dotrel

Absolutely. I've reached that age where I'm terrified of dying alone and childless.

James Forde

If she had a tight fanny, yes

Chuck Stone

Man with high expectations seeks woman with low expectations.

Gingko

cjmcork wrote: »

he's not physically attractive to you, but may be to someone else..........beauty + the eye of the beholder and all that.............

Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder! However I would not date someone that is not physically attractive to me!

4leto

I have done, its fine just bring a paperbag out with you and imagine having sex with someone else while at it.

krudler

What would be the point in dating someone you didnt find attractive? I sure as sh1t wouldnt want someone dating me that found me ugly.

Wolfe Tone

How do you define unattractive? I've seen people defined as such who imo weren't, but were simply a bit plain.

If by unattractive you mean a complete monstrosity then no, I don't think I would date her.

Kevin Duffy

No, I'd have more respect for both of us than to waste somone's time. You should both want to hop one another, not think "meh, I'll do it anyway". There's more to it than that obviously, but without it I wouldn't bother.

maygitchell

... and big baps are a must of course

vince1980

give him a chance..........he could be the kindest most caring person ever. dont judge a book by its cover...give the guy some time

pragmatic1

Not a hope.

OPENROAD

Ms. Pingui wrote: »

Are looks really important to you when it comes to asking somebody out?

I recently met a guy through my friend and we are getting on really well and talk almost every day. The thing is he is not good looking in the slightest! I know he is interested and untill now I thought I would never consider a man who was'nt good looking! Maybe I'm not as shallow as I thought!

Would you go out with an ugly girl/ guy? Or does there have to be physical attraction for it to work?

Seriously!!!!!!!!!!! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! And so many factors make up the beauty in a person....if you can't see that in this person then you have answered your own question.

Ms. Pingui

I suppose what I'm really asking is if you could start to find someone attractive after you get to know tham even if you thought they were'nt good looking when you first met?

maygitchell

Ms. Pingui wrote: »

Are looks really important to you when it comes to asking somebody out?

I recently met a guy through my friend and we are getting on really well and talk almost every day. The thing is he is not good looking in the slightest! I know he is interested and untill now I thought I would never consider a man who was'nt good looking! Maybe I'm not as shallow as I thought!

Would you go out with an ugly girl/ guy? Or does there have to be physical attraction for it to work?

You must be some stunner so....

TheZohanS

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

No, I'd have more respect for both of us than to waste somone's time. You should both want to hop one another, not think "meh, I'll do it anyway". There's more to it than that obviously, but without it I wouldn't bother.

Exactly, the original post makes it seem like the guy is a charity case and if you're ever with someone out of pity like that or think that they're not attractive you'll grow to resent the person and destroy their self confidence. That's not cool.

themadchef

Looks are not completly irrelevant. It may be the thing that initially attracts you to a person in a night club for example (that and dodgy dance moves).

However, actually getting to know someone, to discover things about them that you find attractive, personality traits and little idiosyncrasies that light you up and ring your bell. That's where its at. Physically we have the ability to change immensely but personalities usually dont change that much from year to year (depending on medication )

Of course if youre bat shít ugly im not roidin'.

Peetrik

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

No, I'd have more respect for both of us than to waste somone's time. You should both want to hop one another, not think "meh, I'll do it anyway". There's more to it than that obviously, but without it I wouldn't bother.

Its true, it would be a relationship doomed to failure. You would be doing him a great disservice by leading him on because you enjoy the attention.

maygitchell

It could be like the time in my name is earl where catalina had to ride randy and was pleasantly surprised with the result.



Are you a catalina?

Eric Cartman

if she had enough money then yeah

Lone Stone

ugly people are dirty in bed so yeahhhhhh

Leeg17

krudler wrote: »

What would be the point in dating someone you didnt find attractive? I sure as sh1t wouldnt want someone dating me that found me ugly.

You're still hot to me

*slaps arse*

:pac:

stupidusername

of course not. if they had a great personality, and looked fairly ok then maybe.

beks101

Well obviously attractive is subjective, but if someone was physically unattractive to me...not a chance. No matter how funny/caring/sweet/kind/intelligent etc they were, the physical stuff would just feel like a chore. I'd dread sex with them.

krudler

Leeg17 wrote: »

You're still hot to me

*slaps arse*

:pac:

*giggles* oh you

thanks sweetie

Ms. Pingui

Peetrik wrote: »

Its true, it would be a relationship doomed to failure. You would be doing him a great disservice by leading him on because you enjoy the attention.

I'm not leading him on at all. I'm not just talking to him because I like the attention, I'm talking to him because he has a great personnality and I genuinely like him!
What I'm saying is I now find him attractive becauuse I have gotten to know him, where as I did'nt find him attractive when we first met!

locohobo

This reminds me of a piece I had in my online profile some time back....

"I know I'm here for a greater meaning, I search for my path through life.. I love to touch and be touched but not just in the physical sense...I want to be intoxicated by your beauty not misled by the mask you portray..I need to touch your soul to see what lies beyond....
If only all things in life had a simple solution eh!!:cool:

Kevin Duffy

Ms. Pingui wrote: »

I'm not leading him on at all. I'm not just talking to him because I like the attention, I'm talking to him because he has a great personnality and I genuinely like him!
What I'm saying is I now find him attractive becauuse I have gotten to know him, where as I did'nt find him attractive when we first met!

Then you are attracted to him despite not initially being attracted, which is not the same as not being attracted at all.

Someone you like but aren't attracted to is a friend.

OPENROAD

Ms. Pingui wrote: »

I'm not leading him on at all. I'm not just talking to him because I like the attention, I'm talking to him because he has a great personnality and I genuinely like him!
What I'm saying is I now find him attractive becauuse I have gotten to know him, where as I did'nt find him attractive when we first met!

So whats the problem then?

neevie21

a really really good personality might swing it for me... but id have to be already somewhat attracted to him

cjmcork

Gingko wrote: »

Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder! However I would not date someone that is not physically attractive to me!

neither would I

Littlehorny

4leto wrote: »

I have done, its fine just bring a paperbag out with you and imagine having sex with someone else while at it.

Better off putting making them put two on, in case one falls off

Mully_2011

looks arent everything, but you cant w"nk over a personality

mikeyboy

Ms. Pingui wrote: »

I'm not leading him on at all. I'm not just talking to him because I like the attention, I'm talking to him because he has a great personnality and I genuinely like him!
What I'm saying is I now find him attractive becauuse I have gotten to know him, where as I did'nt find him attractive when we first met!

Why is my girlfriend posting on here??

orourkeda

The physical aspect to any relationship is important.

Little sense in denying it.

I dont believe its vain to suggest but going out with someone you dont find physically attractive is a recipe for disaster

Ms. Pingui

OPENROAD wrote: »

So whats the problem then?

I'm not really asking for advice on the situation, I'm asking would you go out with someone ugly?

Eve_Dublin

Personally, not a hope in hell.

pragmatic1

Mully_2011 wrote: »

looks arent everything, but you cant w"nk over a personality

As base as that sounds its true.

OPENROAD

Ms. Pingui wrote: »

I'm not really asking for advice on the situation, I'm asking would you go out with someone ugly?

Fair enough If I found the person ugly then no I wouldn't ...would have thought that would be the same for everyone.

4leto

If you like someone, you will always find something attractive.

dollyk

Each to their own .
When i met my husband i was attracted to his silly quirks,
most of my friends found him to be odd, but i didnt.
turns out years later we discover he has aspergers.
It was the part of him that i found different....
So i guess if you love him warts an all it will work OP.

Novella

I wouldn't go out with someone I found physically unattractive. I have gone out with guys my friends thought were ugly though. Didn't bother me. If I like someone, I like them.

If I met someone and he ticked all the boxes other than me finding him attractive, then I would consider him a friend. That's just the way it is. I think attraction is really important.

AhSureTisGrand

Only if they were hot

uriah

Ms. Pingui wrote: »

Are looks really important to you when it comes to asking somebody out?

I recently met a guy through my friend and we are getting on really well and talk almost every day. The thing is he is not good looking in the slightest! I know he is interested and untill now I thought I would never consider a man who was'nt good looking! Maybe I'm not as shallow as I thought!

Would you go out with an ugly girl/ guy? Or does there have to be physical attraction for it to work?

Do you think he would want to go out with someone shallow and superficial?

Ms. Pingui

uriah wrote: »

Do you think he would want to go out with someone shallow and superficial?

Is'nt everyone shallow about something at some point?
I don't think I'm being shallow in this case. It would be shallow if I turned him down based on looks alone even if I like his personality, which is not what I'm doing!

Kevin Duffy

uriah wrote: »

Do you think he would want to go out with someone shallow and superficial?

People are allowed be attracted to what they want and not attracted to what they don't want, that's not shallow or superficial.

FurryFace

I think character and personality are more impressive than just good looks.