Oversleeping and low libido

quiz

Im dont have a steady job at the minute so 4 or 5 days a week ill wake up about 8 or 9 after 7 or 8 hours sleep.

ill stay in bed and listen to the radio while reading and ill drift off to sleep again and get up about 1 or 2.

really want to get a routine back soon.

my libido is generally very low at the minute and without a steady gf there is the occasional hook up but nothing regular.

im generally tired on those days after getting up with getting a regular 12 hours sleep!

on the days where i get up early even after 4 or 5 hours sleep and keeping busy i usually have a lot more energy, am in a far better mood and quite horny. Erections are also much better and stamina is better also.

so the question:

can regularly sleeping 12 hours a day be very bad for the libido, horniness and sexual performance?

leggo

I'd say it's more down to unemployment messing around with your self-worth and bumming you out a bit (than specifically over-sleeping, that's just a side effect of the overall problem). With the recession, it's becoming pretty regular among even the most highly motivated, 'go-getters' out there. I've been there myself. It's not depression but just lack of motivation and it messes with everything else around you.

Joining a gym is brilliant for kickstarting a routine. It gives you a reason to get up early, get out of the house and do something, plus a goal to work towards. What that goal is, or whether you hit it, is irrelevant...it's the journey rather than the destination that counts.

Failing that, taking up a hobby or volunteering in something that you're passionate about is another great way to achieve the same goal.

You'll find that everything else around it will start to fall into place then. It's amazing, it feels like you're not doing anything more than you used to, but the fact you're being pro-active again, up and around new people, just makes you feel like you're 'back in the race' and will subconsciously help you in every aspect of your life.

I've written on boards before how I feel the recession was the best thing to ever happen to me. But, make no mistake, I've been where you are and know exactly how you feel. Just force yourself to break that cycle a smidge and you'll be flying.

quiz

Thats good advice, thanks. Definately need to get my drive back. Boredom is a terrible thing.

quiz

quiz wrote: »

can regularly sleeping 12 hours a day be very bad for the libido, horniness and sexual performance?

Of course, for much the same reason that not doing anything is bad for muscles. Your muscles need excercise to lead them to maintain their level of use. If you use them less, they will become capable of less. This is no less true with any other part of your life, energy or libido.

On top of this there are other factors. Not eating after 12 hours sleep means when you wake up and breakfast your body is forced to target a lot of resources at digestion and the like. This will cause you to feel even worse again.

However you likely found that you got into the current routine slowly and it crept up on you. Trying to jerk yourself out of it will probably not work. You need to slowly ease yourself back into the routine you want. Instead of going from 12 hours sleep all the time to 7 in one night and trying to maintain this you need to do it in increments. Try two days at 11:45 hours. Then two more at 11:30. A month from now you will be in a better place.

Use that month to try and fill the time too so you are not sitting for hours with nothing to do. Try and find a mix of mental and physical use for that time and not just focus on one or the other.

It may help to start with a list of targets in terms of where you want to be when you are done and what you want to be diong with your new found extra time each day. Again start into each of those things in increments. If one of your targets is... for example... to do a 45 minute run every day... then start with a 5 minute run for some days, then 10 for some more days and so on.

In summary: Set your targets and work towards them in small increments until you get there. Do not change too much too soon.

Miss Fluff

You don't mention anywhere in your post whether you exercise or not. If you don't of course you are going to feel like sh1t. You're going to feel sluggish, lethargic and your body is not going to be working properly. Do you go to the gym/participate in a sport?

quiz

I do a bit of jogging on and off and the odd bit of 5-a-side but not regular enough for it to have a good effect on the fitness. I used to be the type to leave gaelic training and go to a 5-a-side game so have to find the middle ground.

I need to get to the gym and do compound exercises like squats and dead lifts to increase testosterone production and get a better workout and blow off the bit of frustration. The diet needs a bit of an overhaul also but its going in the right direction.

Thanks for the contributions.