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Advice for getting on with it

  • 26-09-2011 10:27pm
    #1
    den87
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 531 ✭✭✭


    Hey just looking for bit of advice on getting on with a break up.

    Girlfriend of 4 and half years broke up with me about 2 months ago, we work together which makes things worse. Tried the whole "friends" thing for a bit, didnt work. Met up a few times, things got physical every time. Still feelings there but it wont work out as she "wants to be on her own" for a bit. We just have general chit chat with each other now. Kissed a girl since we broke up, nothing major just a kiss.

    Now, i dont really miss her anymore, i was a wreck for the 1st month but things have gotten easier since. But the thing is, i just cant get on with it, every day there's stupid stuff going through my head like i'll remember something that happened between us and it'll get me angry, it'll just be something small that she might have done/said to indicate she was unhappy/cheating and it gets me depressed and angry then because it makes more sense now.

    I'm just wondering is this normal? And also looking for advice on how to get on with it? Will it be easier over time?

    Thanks in advance


Comments

  • #2
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    Yes it will go on for a while but sooner or later you'll snap out of it. The only way to get over it though is to not talk to them. "I want to be on my own", simply means that they don't want to be with you, but she's definitely open to being with someone she's attracted to, but that ain't you anymore. So don't be surprised if she's seeing someone else now, but you're better off not knowing so this is another reason for no contact.
    Just carry on as you are, you seem to be doing well if you don't miss her anymore. I'm in a similar situation now but I just have been trying to keep occupied, and looking after myself, and trying to keep fit etc. Take care of Numero 1 first of all, don't worry about women for now just try and become the best den87 you can and in time women will come into your life again.


  • #3
    pheasant tail
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 942 ✭✭✭pheasant tail


    i found geting the hell of facebook helped and even changed me number so i thought even if she was texting i wudnt get it even though she probably wasnt :)


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