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What is stopping me from talking to women?

  • 26-09-2011 2:53am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I am a 19 year old fella and I am going to try and keep this short and sweet. I was bullied a lot during school but I am happy now as I have being for a good while. I might have a bad few hours but everyone has them.
    My problems start is when ever a girl pays attention to me I sort of clam up and I freeze and I just try and get away from them because it feels wrong. My problem with this is I have these strange flashbacks of a man known to me doing sexual things to me as a kid and I don't know what to make of it to be honest with ye. There is something there but I just don't know what it is and It is driving me crazy!


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  • #2
    Sleepy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,367 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    Repressed memories? Might be best dealt with through a professional OP.

    http://www.oneinfour.ie have a good reputation on here and it's a charity so I presume they don't charge for their work.


  • #3
    Seachmall
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,041 ✭✭✭Seachmall


    whatswrong wrote: »
    My problem with this is I have these strange flashbacks of a man known to me doing sexual things to me as a kid and I don't know what to make of it to be honest with ye.

    You need to talk to someone about that.

    A professional, a family member, a friend, whoever. Just let someone know.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I walked back from college to post this. Thanks for the replies. I know there is something there and I am afraid to go digging if I remember too much. Would I better of be lonely for the rest of my life? I just find it so hard to connect with people and especially on a nights out with friends and there all chatting up girls I just don't know what to do even if someone touches me I clam up. Often on nights out I normal just sneak away and hope to go unnoticed.


  • #5
    EGAR
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,874 ✭✭✭EGAR


    You cannot move forward if you have one foot in the past. Get help, get it sorted with the help of professionals. It is not going away and although initially it may be hard to face up to it, it will be liberating for you in the long run. No man is an island..


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