Engagement ring - "the one"

random10

My boyfriend and I have been shopping for an engagement ring for the last while. We plan on getting engaged in October so there has been no huge rush on us.I have looked at so many rings now that I'm sick of looking. I have narrowed it down to a round solitaire as I have a small slim hand but while I've fitted on lots of beautiful rings I haven't had a "oh god that's the one" moment. Do most people have that moment or am I expecting too much. I'm a bit deflated as I had an image of falling madly in love with a ring and this hasn't happened.

Moonbeam

No, It does happen!!
I was so disappointed I didn't have that moment with dresses.

random10

Did you not love your dress in the end? I think people build this day up where everything is supposed to be fairy tale like,I don't think reality is like that!

nicowa

We looked online before we went shopping so we had an idea what we wanted. When we were shopping we did kind of see a few too many. We were getting it that day so we sat down to lunch with pics of the three we'd picked out as nicest and just thought about it over lunch. By the time lunch was over I'd pretty much decided. Went back and knew it was the one I wanted.

I don't get an immeditate "OMG that's the one". Didn't with the ring, didn't with the dress. But going back the second time, for both, I knew this was what I wanted.

Sometime things have to settle in your brain. And with the amount of shopping you're doing you might have too much to think about. Start narrowing down so you can think about them more individually. When you start narrowing down you'll start to see which ones you really want.

Duke Leonal Felmet

My fiancée got that 'its the one' moment. But she had a clear idea of what she wanted from the outset.

cheekyass

Yeah I did have that moment I have to admit when I saw mine. But don't put pressure on yourself (and your O.H.) to have that moment. Sounds like you've just had an information over load. Take a break for a little while (as you said your in no rush) and just have a think about it. All rings can look the same after a while!

Would you consider having one made for you maybe?

Best of luck with the ring hunting!

random10

Thanks guys, it's exactly as ye said went to too many shops and they all started to look the same.

I was so excited when we started looking I think I've taken the fun out of it. But my OH knows what I want now so I've told him it's up to him now!

kandr10

You could always reduce your choices down to your top 3 and get fiance to pick from them. You'd have an element of surprise that might make up for not having the 'it's the one' moment.

Moonbeam

random10 wrote: »

Did you not love your dress in the end? I think people build this day up where everything is supposed to be fairy tale like,I don't think reality is like that!

It isn't really and our set up in not the traditional norm.
Venues disappointed me because none seemed perfect and fairytale,dresses were so expensive that I bought the nicest of those that I tried on and did not try on what I could not afford.
I have a nice venue booked but not what I imagined.

Monife

I didn't get "that's the one" moment with the dress or the ring. But then again, I am not that emotional of a person and I never had the big fairytale wedding dream. I narrowed it down to my 2 favourite rings within our price range and then chose the one I liked the most. With the dress, my dress was the only one I liked out of all the dresses I tried on. I really did like it, but I didn't get a tingly feeling that it was the one. Maybe there isn't "a one" for some people. But that's ok, just choose a ring that you really like and can imagine wearing every day.

Nead21

I got that "it's the one" feeling with my engagement ring. We only went to 3 jewelers but I didnt want to take it off and couldn't stop thinking about it.

Had the same thing with my dress...had tried a few shops and had one strong possibility but something was holding me back from ordering it, but didn't know what. Went to a vintage shop to have a look, and it was the second dress I tried on. I just knew straight away because it felt as though it had been made for me.

Trust your gut and you won't go far wrong

kittex

random10 wrote: »

My boyfriend and I have been shopping for an engagement ring for the last while. We plan on getting engaged in October so there has been no huge rush on us.I have looked at so many rings now that I'm sick of looking. I have narrowed it down to a round solitaire as I have a small slim hand but while I've fitted on lots of beautiful rings I haven't had a "oh god that's the one" moment. Do most people have that moment or am I expecting too much. I'm a bit deflated as I had an image of falling madly in love with a ring and this hasn't happened.

I had a very fixed idea in my head of what I wanted but when we went to the shop to try on the one that I had seen online, I got nothing. It was all a bit flat. So my fiance and the lady in the shop got me to try on everythihng - regardless of whether I liked it on the display.
I put one on and burst into tears, so that had to be it. I would never ever have picked it off the stand as it's so bling, but it looked right on my hand and I just got that feeling.
Have you looked within a fixed selection or gone outwith that?
You might find the 'feeling' from something you didn't expect.
Good luck with the search and congrats on the engagement!

lazygal

I had a very fixed idea of what I wanted. I had seen a ring in a window and thought "that's the one for me". But when we went together to try it on I hated it, didn't suit at all. I tried on suggested ones and a lot of difference stones (I didn't want a diamond so I had a lot of stones to chose from!). I loved one more than all the others and that's what I went for.

I definitely didn't have a "this is the one for me" dress moment, I had a strict budget and as we didn't have a long engagement I was slightly restricted in what I could order. But on the day, with my veil on, hair and makeup done and excitment building I loved my overall look.

I've seen rings since we got married (husband wants to buy me another as I've a significant birthday coming up) and some are lovely, even nicer than my e-ring but nothing beats knowing "this is the ring we got engaged with", it's always a special ring.

haron

i would suggest maybe getting a ring made that's what we did we sat with the jeweller and picked what we liked from al the rings we had seen and got them all put into one design. ended up with the prefect ring and because it was made for us we got what we wanted with in our budget

LeeHoffmann

I agree with what random10 said. The wedding industry propogates these fairytale expectations of 'the one' - the one dress, the one ring, the one venue, the one photographer, it goes on and on. These are just things. If you have "the one" OH and you like the things you buy, you're sorted. I wouldn't stress about finding the perfect ring. If you find a ring you like, that suits you, that you can afford and that you think you will still like in 50 years time, be happy. It's what the ring signifies that matters. I know wedding stuff is exciting and it's so easy to get carried away (most of us have done it) and sure, some people instantly love their ring/dress/whatever - but don't buy into the myth of the perfect fairtyle wedding day - it only exists to make money

moco

I looked at loads and didn't see one I wanted because I had a clear image in my head of what I wanted..and it wasn't in the shops. We got it made in the end and I love it.