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Homesick?

  • 18-09-2011 6:45am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I've recently moved to the UK for work leaving behind friends, family and my boyfriend of several years. It has only been a few months but I honestly cannot describe how lonely I feel.
    The new job has not worked out nearly as well as I hoped, the thoughts of going in every morning fills me with dread and makes me feel sick to my stomach.I seem to be making no progress and instead of getting easier things seem to be getting more and more difficult. I seem to be taking longer to do things and can't seem to function properly. Surely after this length of time it should be getting better?
    Equally at home in the evenings I feel so lonely I just burst into tears.
    I have made some friends in the area and am trying to keep busy. I haven't just spent my time sitting at home alone or anything but still this aching loneliness is there.
    I suppose I'm looking for any advise on how to overcome it.
    Going home simply isn't an option because it has cost me so much to move over here and there's no work in my field at home. I spent 6 years training to do this and thought I was good at it.
    Already I can feel the tears stinging my eyes when I think about having to go to work tomorrow. I just don't know what to do.


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  • #2
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Hey there,

    I was in your shoes only moving from Scotland to the Eire - the bad news is that it's been over 7 years now and I still get really bad pangs of homesickness for the life I left behind - and I still really miss certain aspects of living in Scotland...the good news is it doesn't happen nearly so often and in terms of life, job, friends, etc, these days, Ireland feels more like home to my life than Scotland does.

    You are doing all the right things; keep busy, join clubs, make new friends, make regular contact with home, get a video link set up if you can, get your folks to send you irish papers and bring over Irish foods you miss and try to get used to missing everything you do and start getting used to what passes for normality where you are now. I think the only cure for bad homesickness that can't be cured by going home, is time. On the job front, get those CV's out - while it may not result in much during the current climate, the fact you are doing SOMETHING is bound to make you feel better...and you never know, you might get a change of job out of it.

    All the best you.


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