To Make A Move or Not?

LegacyUser

The last week I've been doing some work around College to earn a bit of extra money. On Monday I was put in a group to work with. We had one girl in our group and she was pretty cute. I didn't waste a minute in getting to know her. We spent 6 hours chatting to each other without any awkward silences or anything. There was a bit of subtle flirting goin' on during that time and a bit of innocent touching as well.

I was working again on Wednesday and I made sure that I was in the same group as this girl. Before we even started we began flirting with each other. Immeadiately I told her that she looked like a hot celebrity and she picked up that I was trying to say she was hot. Got a huge hug and "aww you think I'm hot" for that. As the night went on our flirting went from being subtle to begin totally obvious. We started messing around by lightly pushing and trying to knock each other off balance. We'd grab each others arm or ribs or hips. We lightly tapped our heads a few times as well.

Later on into the night it started to get really cold so she just latched onto me for warmth. I wanted to do a little experiment at this point to see her reaction. She had linked arms with me so I pulled my arm a little closer to my body to see what she'd do. Immeadiately she grasped on tighter to me and at some points I felt her thumb gently stroking my arm. When I got my arm free from her "to check my phone" she went straight back onto my arm after I put it in my pocket.

After work I drove her home, and we were still chatting despite the fact it was 4am at this point. As she was getting out of the car I asked her to come to a party I was throwing next week and she said she would. I text her the next day but forgot she had no credit, but she left a comment on facebook of an inside joke we had.

After reading all that you'd think it'd be easy to see that I should make a move. But at one point of the night she mentioned a guy she was shifting and that it only lasted a week cos she "gets bored easily". She mentioned this once the whole night and after that didn't say anything about it again. We just went straight back flirting.

That one thing has made me paranoid to make a move now. Should I just forget about it, grow a pair and make a move? What do you guys think?

Wompa1

ClulessFlirt wrote: »

The last week I've been doing some work around College to earn a bit of extra money. On Monday I was put in a group to work with. We had one girl in our group and she was pretty cute. I didn't waste a minute in getting to know her. We spent 6 hours chatting to each other without any awkward silences or anything. There was a bit of subtle flirting goin' on during that time and a bit of innocent touching as well.

I was working again on Wednesday and I made sure that I was in the same group as this girl. Before we even started we began flirting with each other. Immeadiately I told her that she looked like a hot celebrity and she picked up that I was trying to say she was hot. Got a huge hug and "aww you think I'm hot" for that. As the night went on our flirting went from being subtle to begin totally obvious. We started messing around by lightly pushing and trying to knock each other off balance. We'd grab each others arm or ribs or hips. We lightly tapped our heads a few times as well.

Later on into the night it started to get really cold so she just latched onto me for warmth. I wanted to do a little experiment at this point to see her reaction. She had linked arms with me so I pulled my arm a little closer to my body to see what she'd do. Immeadiately she grasped on tighter to me and at some points I felt her thumb gently stroking my arm. When I got my arm free from her "to check my phone" she went straight back onto my arm after I put it in my pocket.

After work I drove her home, and we were still chatting despite the fact it was 4am at this point. As she was getting out of the car I asked her to come to a party I was throwing next week and she said she would. I text her the next day but forgot she had no credit, but she left a comment on facebook of an inside joke we had.

After reading all that you'd think it'd be easy to see that I should make a move. But at one point of the night she mentioned a guy she was shifting and that it only lasted a week cos she "gets bored easily". She mentioned this once the whole night and after that didn't say anything about it again. We just went straight back flirting.

That one thing has made me paranoid to make a move now. Should I just forget about it, grow a pair and make a move? What do you guys think?

Sounds like she's warning you she's not into relationships.

LegacyUser

Wompa1 wrote: »

Sounds like she's warning you she's not into relationships.

Neither am I. When I'm asking about making a move I'm not on about towards a relationship, I'm on about making a move to have a little fun and see where that takes us.

Ickle Magoo

So what's to be paranoid over then? You just want a bit of fun, the worst she can say is no...given her warning & flirting it's more likely she'll say yes and then get bored after a week - which still gives you some fun and no relationship. :cool:

Kevin Duffy

What do you think is the difference between "making a move" and what you've been doing already?

LegacyUser

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

What do you think is the difference between "making a move" and what you've been doing already?

Well I've only been flirting with her, I wouldn't exactly call that making a move.

Kevin Duffy

ClulessFlirt wrote: »

Well I've only been flirting with her, I wouldn't exactly call that making a move.

It's a process, not just one moment. You have been "making your move" and if you're going to be at a party together, the next step seems likely to present itself there, or not at all, depending on whether she keeps sending the signals she's sent so far.

LegacyUser

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

It's a process, not just one moment. You have been "making your move" and if you're going to be at a party together, the next step seems likely to present itself there, or not at all, depending on whether she keeps sending the signals she's sent so far.

I'm fairly confident that the opportunity will present itself at the party, and if it does then I'll be one happy guy. My only problem is that I can see myself getting a bit shy if the opportunity arises.....guess I'll have to counteract it with a small bit of dutch courage.

Taltos

OP - rethink this - dutch courage - aka having a few to help your confidence may just result in her thinking - "oh what a loser wasted out of his head"...

Just play it by ear, go have some fun but maybe hold back on the dutch courage.

NoQuarter

Hang on a second, OP, you should have already kissed her, if you dont kiss her at your party she is going to think you are an idiot!

Why on earth would anyone need the advice of an internet board in your situation!?!!

LegacyUser

@Taltos. When I said dutch courage I didn't mean shot after shot, what I was talking about was maybe just a bottle or two just to take the edge off. I'm actually not a big drinker, I can have a good night out stone sober.

@NoQuarter. Do you really think I should have done that already? I'd hate to have missed my chance already. I kinda like getting other peoples advice, especially when it's about stuff like this because I'm so cluless when it comes to it.

NoQuarter

ClulessFlirt wrote: »

@Taltos. When I said dutch courage I didn't mean shot after shot, what I was talking about was maybe just a bottle or two just to take the edge off. I'm actually not a big drinker, I can have a good night out stone sober.

@NoQuarter. Do you really think I should have done that already? I'd hate to have missed my chance already. I kinda like getting other peoples advice, especially when it's about stuff like this because I'm so cluless when it comes to it.

Yes, I think that at the end of the night you should have kissed her because it was so obvious you both wanted it. Not doing so can be a dealbreaker for some girls but I would say because you've essentially asked her out you have a clear shot at it this time.

Act like her friend this time though and you deserve to lose out!

Tusky

ClulessFlirt wrote: »

Immeadiately I told her that she looked like a hot celebrity and she picked up that I was trying to say she was hot.

Wow, this girl is sharp. With intuition like that shes a keeper.

Just read back what you wrote CluelessFlirt - its obvious you should make a move. If she gave you anymore signals it would probably be a turn off!

Considering the fact you have already spent a fair amount of flirting i would say there is little chance she will get bored any time soon. Just go with the flow sure see where it takes you. just because she gets bored of others it dont mean she will get bored of you

LegacyUser

So guys I just wanna thank everyone who commented on this with advice. She came to the house party and I made my move and it went well, it went really well. I'm meeting up with her again within the next few days and I'm looking forward to that. Gonna see where it takes us now. Thanks again guys. All advice was much appreciated.